Does anyone else feel invisible ?

Littlebitalone — Sun, 08 May 2016 05:58:55 GMT

Hi there,

I'm Simone, 24 & happily married. I have a wonderful husband, wonderful family & in laws as well as a handful of friends who I love & trust !

but aside from this strong support network, I constantly feel alone & invisible. I feel like I'm crazy. I feel like all these people are around me but I'm alone ? It's a horrible feeling & I don't know why i feel this way. For instance, if I upload a photo to Instagram & my sister in law (for example) doesn't like it I will dwell on it for days, even a week as to why she didn't.

I just feel like everyone is better than me & more deserving & I think everyone else realises this. I think if they didn't have to be around they wouldn't & I would actually be alone. Maybe I try too hard to make people like me ? Can anyone suggest what I should do ? I try to ask people questions about themselves & show interest in my life but no-one really shows interest in mine. Am I so boring ? Do I take over conversations ? Maybe I can't blame them ? Maybe I am better off feeling alone

Does anyone else feel invisible ?

BlackwoodForest — Sun, 08 May 2016 23:52:52 GMT

Hi Simone.

The feeling of being invisible is awful isn't it? I've certainly felt that before.... but I can guarantee, with such a great support network who clearly love you, you are not invisible.

What may be invisible to them is how much you're struggling with your feelings. It is so surprising how well we can hide anxiety/depression or any other negative feelings. Just last night, I was talking to my partner about just how miserable I'm feeling at the moment, and he was honestly shocked. He had no idea. Maybe that's what's going on for you? If you feel particularly comfortable with one member of your family, maybe you can chat to them?

When it comes to your example of Instagram, I really feel like social media is just not that great of a tool to make people feel connected to each other... and it's by no means a terrible tool to measure your self-worth. Remember, it's very easy to miss a post. Maybe your sister-in-law simply didn't use Instagram that day. There's usually a very simple, completely innocent explanation for the way people behave, and it says nothing about who you are as a person. Perhaps you need to take a break from social media or anything else that can give you a false sense of how you're perceived by the world. Take a step back, breathe, and focus on your interactions with people in real life. As you say, sometimes it's hard to get people to show interest, but keep on practicing and surrounding yourself with your support network.

I'm sure you're a lovely person and very deserving of people's time.

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Does anyone else feel invisible ?

Does anyone else feel invisible ?