Are these REAL issues or do i need to toughen up?

Lissy25 — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 10:58:28 GMT

Hi guys,

Its only been quite recently that ive somewhat come to terms that i may have anxiety/depression. A very close relative of mine has convinced me to go to the GP. I thought i would ask for some of your opinion before i go- i dont know if how im feeling is anxiety/depression or if im simply being over emotional and/or if this is just how life is.

Ive always found it very difficult to talk to people in large groups. I get a frog in my throat, i panic and everything shuts down- i freeze. The only thing thats going through my mind at this time would be thoughts of "Are they judging me", "what if i say something stupid", "they all hate me" etc. This has been my train of thought for the longest time i can remember. I avoid all social situations as possible unless it it with immediate family and friends. If im forced to go to a social event, i hide in the bathroom for as long as i can and to take myself out of that situation.

About a year ago this anxiety got worse and i felt like people were talking about me. Now i can see that maybe it was all in my head and coupled with my low self confidence and worth, not to mentioned insecure, i fell into a really bad place. I would wake up in the mornings, dreading getting and bed. When i at work, everything just seemed pointless. I would have breakdowns every lunch time and not know what was wrong. I mean, i come from a good family and have great friends, no hardships in my life, so what right do i have to feel like that? When it got worse, i simply handed in my resignation and walked away.

When i found a new job, it felt like i was in a better place. I still lacked confidence and had issues when it came to social gatherings. I felt flat but it was nothing compared to the low i had felt. Now, a year on, im back in this dark place. Every morning i wake up exhausted and not know why. I would have breakdowns everyday when im by myself and still not know why. It feels like i left my old job hoping that i felt the way i did because of the people there, but maybe its just me?

What i want to know is, is this normal? Is this just the bouts of life and i have to soldier on? Or is something i need to get help on? I guess i kind of feel like how im feeling is really important.

Any help/advise would be greatly appreciated.

L

Are these REAL issues or do i need to toughen up?

white knight — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 13:07:54 GMT

Hi Lissy, welcome here

Doctors often use a test sheet for you to answer about 20 -30 questions that will determine anxiety and/or stress/depression present. No one can diagnose your condition here. We are sufferers of mental illness ourselves.

Some of the symptoms you describe certainly are ones many of us experience. But everyone is different.

Good luck Tony WK

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Are these REAL issues or do i need to toughen up?

Are these REAL issues or do i need to toughen up?