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Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

startingnew — Sat, 10 Jul 2021 11:26:29 GMT

Hi Everyone,

I Have been given this amazing opportunity for a few months time but im getting so anxious over it and my self doubt is taking over. How does everyone manage the negative talk in your own head? All i can think is 'What will happen if i stuff up?' 'What if i fail?' 'What if im not good enough?' I am Panicing and so unsure of myself and doubting my abilities.

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

Summer Rose — Sat, 10 Jul 2021 13:04:34 GMT

Hi startingnew

Congratulations on your new opportunity!

It might help you to deal with the doubt and worry by looking at the “evidence.”

You earned this opportunity. This means you’re capable of hard work, persistence and achievement.

You succeeded where others didn’t. This means you’re competent, worthy and a rising star.

You were chosen for the opportunity. This means someone believes in you.

Evidence trumps irrational thoughts every day of the week.

Good luck and kind thoughts to you

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

quirkywords — Sat, 10 Jul 2021 23:29:06 GMT

Starting new

I think many reading this Kinglake you're dilemma that when is really excited to have a great opportunity while at the same time anxious that they may mess things up.

Summer Rose has written a very supportive reply and many of her points I was going to say as well so I won't repeat them.

You have proved yourself worthy of the opportunity and having a few doubts is common when starting a new project.

What if can be do powerful as well as I negative.

What if I use my skills to cope with this opportunity?

What if I overcome my self doubts and work hard to achieve my goals ?

I often find the thought of something is worse than actually doing it.

Congratulations on being offered to his opportunity.

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

startingnew — Sun, 11 Jul 2021 09:59:25 GMT

Thank you Summer and Quirky,

I was approached for this opportunity so didnt really even have to try out which is a good thing. I guess its cause itll be very much out of my comfort zone. Itll be run over a course of 4 days and a few hours away from where i live. it will be like a whole new world. I havent done what theyve selected me to do at this level and not for many years. the last time i done something similar is was nerve wracking but because i knew many of the people and the people id be working with it made it easier to get into a groove.

I keep trying to tell myself that i cant be too bad if i was personally selected by someone but it hasnt really settled my anxiety. perhaps once i get there after the first day i might settle in abit more. I really just dont want to let anyone down.

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

Summer Rose — Sun, 11 Jul 2021 12:52:02 GMT

Hi startingnew

I think we all experience a fear of disappointing others from time to time. I get it.

For me, the key has been accepting that you can never please everyone. It’s impossible. So, I just do my best and let things evolve.

I think it’s great that you’re stepping out of your comfort zone. I know it’s a bit scary and anxiety provoking but I think if you can push through you’ll never regret it.

Many times I’ve walked into meetings with very senior powerful people—managing directors, politicians or their senior representatives—looking confident but really anxious on the inside. Mostly because I’ve built it up in my head and imagined all the worst possible outcomes, but then it turns out to be not nearly as bad as I thought—even a positive experience.

I’ve pushed myself because my comfort zone is nice but personal growth is amazing.

You’ve no doubt been selected on merit. So, you always remember that you deserve the opportunity and make the most of it. You won’t please everybody—and that’s to be expected—but hopefully you’ll please yourself.

Kind thoughts to you

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

Amanda2000 — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 01:11:38 GMT

Hi startingnew,

I experience the same thing. The pre-emptive worries are always worse than doing the actual thing. So I try to say to myself "don't think and just do it!"

It helps me. I need to keep things simple for myself.

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

startingnew — Wed, 14 Jul 2021 09:02:20 GMT

Thanks Amanda,

yes ill definently be doing it. i just have to tame these thoughts and worries somehow. i am looking forward to it though!

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

startingnew — Wed, 14 Jul 2021 09:04:15 GMT

Thanks Summer,

im trying to let the excitment override the worries. im also trying to do what i can to get better at this role so when the time comes ill be even more prepared for it as well.

its definently scary! i havent done anything like it before but hopefully i do a good job if i prepare well enough

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

Learn to Fly — Wed, 14 Jul 2021 10:39:12 GMT

Hi startingnew,

Congratulations and well done!
Maybe try to think of a ways how to tackle your anxieties and worries. For instance: how about making a list of thing that make you nervous about this new opportunity. For each that gives you worry, you can try to come up with solutions that would hopefully ease your stress.
Your self belief in your own abilities seems to be a bit shaky but look at the truce facts: someone had seen these beautiful values and strengths in you and appreciated them to the point of trusting you with the job. And doubting in yourself can sometimes be a part of your strength because it might show how humble your are and that you never take anything for granted and appreciate a chance given.

Let ya know how you go and all the best of luck!

Take care.

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

startingnew — Sun, 25 Jul 2021 02:24:12 GMT

Thank you Learn To Fly

i will give those suggestions ago. im hoping that covid wont ruin it this year too.

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

Ggrand — Sun, 25 Jul 2021 04:03:02 GMT

Hello Starts...

Congratulations for being given an amazing opportunity in a few months time.....That is great news and very well deserved...

Starts, I can relate to your anxiety and about the questions your mind is throwing at you...but please believe that in a way these are normal thoughts, that a lot of people with mh go through...and they are hard for your healthy thoughts to ignore...

Firstly beautiful little butterfly...This opportunity came to you by someone who has every bit of confidence that you can manage this opportunity, or else they wouldn’t of approached you...Please try hard to believe in yourself...

I know you’re a very intelligent young lady and if you have any problems when you do start..then the best idea I can think of is to approach someone there that can help you...I think that even the most competent person in their field, still needs to ask questions and learn about their new role in their new employment...

Keep preparing yourself the way you feel that can help you, but not to the point of stressing out....I can see that you are so enthusiastic and excited for this new opportunity...and you want to do the best you can when the time comes to start it....and Starts..that’s all you can do and that’s all anyone expects you to do....

I am so happy for you....

My love and some hugs...dear little butterfly..🦋🤗..

Grandy..

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

Petal22 — Sun, 25 Jul 2021 17:23:03 GMT

Hi starting new,

Congratulations on the opportunity, I understand….. with every new opportunity that makes us feel uncomfortable will bring you growth!

Try challenging those anxious thoughts replace them with positive self talk……. Step into your confidence I’m sure you will do great! The people who have selected you have seen something great in you…..trust it… trust yourself! 😊

Struggling with anxiety, and self doubt thoughts over a great opportunity

Learn to Fly — Mon, 26 Jul 2021 06:20:51 GMT

Hi startingnew,

I know... Everything seems to be so uncertain these days because of Covid and all the lockdowns...

I try to remember that as hard as it gets, All of us are affected so everyone has a fairly sound understanding of the general hardship.

Keeping my fingers tightly crossed for you!