topic Please Help Me in Anxiety

Please Help Me

Kitty_Kat — Fri, 23 May 2014 08:53:53 GMT

Hi,

To start off, I would just like to say that I am a fairly young girl but I need help. There is a lot on my mind at the moment, so I have joined this online forum looking for help...

Firstly, I have lots and lots of friends outside of school and I guess I would consider myself popular between those people, and they are the best people I could ask for. But when I step into school I find myself surrounded by these people who only really treat me badly. I have a few friends there, but the people they hang out with are just so horrible. If they treat me like I am nothing and take the only friends I have away from me, how am I to cope? Do I try and fight for them or do I let them push me around, because knowing me; I wouldn't have the courage to stand up for myself. I met this one girl, who was my best friend just like that! But I went on my class camp, and all of a sudden; there is this other girl with her. I understood that she is allowed to have more than one friend, but she happened to choose a girl that hates me. Every time I actually get the courage to approach them all she does is steal my friend away and doesn't let her be with me. This is like a stab in the heart for me because what we shared was something truly special and I miss what we had.

Secondly, (this is more to do with anxiety) lately, every time something happens; big or small, but it hurts my feelings... I cry. But not just any crying, the type of crying when I have to leave the room, sit in the toilet getting scared because I cant stop. No matter what I do it doesn't stop and I am normally there for about 30-35 minutes waiting for it to stop. It has been happening for the past four weeks and it hasn't gotten any better or worse. I am seeing a counsellor about this but I would like some other advice for it because the more it happens, the more scared of it I get and I freak out every time it happens. Is this a form of anxiety? Because I don't really know what anxiety is and I want to have some kind of answer to why this crying thing is happening.

Lastly, these days I have become very self conscious of the way I look, am and sound like. I am always thinking in my head, and I am not classified as a pretty girl at my school. I have freckles, a weird nose, a horrible height, a low voice and the only thing I like when I look in the mirror is either what I am wearing, my hair (long, curly, brunette) and my eyes (rich blue). I also try to make people laugh sometimes by being funny, which never works; and sometimes I seem to forget I am trying to fit in and I go a little crazy and be my self. Mum always says, just be yourself and everyone will like you. Well, when I do be myself people judge me, and I am the type who can't handle being judged in a bad way.

I would really appreciate someone to reply because I need to serious help and I need answers to my problems, I am still only in year eight and I don't want to feel this way any longer.

Love Kitty xxx

Please Help Me

avalon2 — Sat, 24 May 2014 08:31:07 GMT

Hi Kitty,

I am your age too 🙂 I am not too educated on anxiety so I don't really know what to do but I am here if you ever want to chat. On your friends, I think you should try stand up to them, they don't sound like good friends.

Avalon 🙂

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white knight — Sat, 24 May 2014 10:01:52 GMT

Dear Kitty,

Welcome to BB, so glad you've written in. Avalon is so right, try to meet even newer friends.And it was so nice of Avalon offering to help.

But also the school environment isnt a sound one IMO. Teenagers are prone to play emotional games and toy with each other. And as far as not fitting in and trying to be funny and it not working out....boy I reckon many here have been in that situation. It seemed whenever I played the exact same joke with my friends it was never accepted like it was when they did it. I dont know what makes some kids popular over others. But we cant all have strong funny and popular personalities.

I wouldnt compete with your friends time. If they are really your friends they will seek you out.

As for crying uncontrollably- I'm a guy and at 13 right up to 40yo that was me!! then I was diagnoses with anxiety, bipolar 2, depression and dtsthymia. But I also learned to embrace my emotions. They are special to me. Without them I couldnt write emotional poetry for example.

The way you look? You poor girl. Eventually you will accept that men are attracted to a girl for who she is, her personality number one and her cuteness, her laugh etc. This is an early stage of growing up and I was no different in wanting my looks to fit the trend. Gee, its a long time ago but all the guys when I was a teen had long hair (hippy days) and I had thick hair. Which meant that when I grew it long it was afro style and I was teased for a long time.

Hang in there. Find things to laugh at, embrace the friends that stick by you and leave the others behind.

take care

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Kitty_Kat — Mon, 26 May 2014 12:09:25 GMT

Thank you Avalon, I really appreciate that. I will take that to mind 🙂 xx

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Kitty_Kat — Mon, 26 May 2014 12:11:26 GMT

Thanks so much White Night, what you have written is very educational and I really am grateful for you giving me this advice. As for anxiety, would you say I have any form of anxiety?? Thanks again 🙂

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white knight — Thu, 29 May 2014 05:03:51 GMT

Hi Kitty Kat,

I have no idea if you suffer from anxiety or not on a medical basis. We are not trained medical professionals here, just sufferers of mental illness that have come through the other side and are healthy enough to assist where we can.

I'd chat to your GP. Tell him your symptoms. It's a vital step. We can though inform you that you are not alone in your feelings and being alienated isnt unusual.

Good luck there.