topic Re: Seeking connection in BB Social Zone

Seeking connection

Arra — Tue, 18 Nov 2025 05:00:13 GMT

Seeking connection

I am Arra I am 30 years old, I like mountain biking, fishing, surfing, gardening and going for walks with my family. I am connecting on here as I feel quite isolated, alone and exclude from other services when I actually need *help* not to be silenced or excluded
I don’t always get it right, impulsiveness comes with having severe adhd that has affected me my entire life, so sometimes I say things I don’t mean or find rules hard to follow, but I am trying so hard. I have a history of severe and complex trauma, anxiety and issues managing my anger and overwhelm
I would like to establish connections and a community here. I hope people drop in this thread to say hi.
culture is important to me I identify as Arrernte

Re: Seeking connection

Sophie_M — Fri, 21 Nov 2025 03:47:44 GMT

Hey Arra,

Welcome to the Forums! This is a great space to connect with others. A lot of us are here because we can feel isolated and are seeking a space to feel heard and accepted. It sounds like you have been through a lot, and you’re working really hard to manage as best as you can. Truthfully, none of us always get it right - and that’s okay. We’re still here for support.

You have some very interesting hobbies. Are you planning to do any of these this coming weekend?

Thank you again for sharing and for being here. Feel free to pop into other social threads, too, whenever you want to chat some more.

Take care of yourself today, Arra.

Kind regards,
Sophie M

Re: Seeking connection

Eagle Ray — Fri, 21 Nov 2025 11:18:19 GMT

Hi Arra,

I just wanted to say hi and welcome! I love the sound of your hobbies. I wish I could surf. I did used to do bodyboarding a bit as a teenager. I’m 50, so a bit older than you. My main hobby at the moment is photography. It helps me enormously. I have complex trauma too and a bit of adhd in there. It’s so true what Sophie says - we all struggle to get it right at times. I think anger comes up for a reason and it’s like energy that needs to get out. A lot of anger went inwards for me which wasn’t good for my health. All those active things you are doing are a great way for the body to express itself and release energy.

It’s awesome you have your connection to culture. Connections are so important. I’ve never been to central Australia and Arrernte country. It’s one of the areas I’d like to visit one day.

With your gardening, do you grow any veggies? I used to be very keen on growing my own food and tried building my own permaculture garden years ago. It sort of went ok and I did grow a variety of tomatoes as well as chilies, capsicum, eggplant, cucumbers, radishes, beetroot etc. Not everything was successful but I really enjoyed cooking with produce from the garden.

Thanks for posting and sharing here,

Eagle Ray

Re: Seeking connection

smallwolf — Mon, 24 Nov 2025 10:46:55 GMT

hello and Welcome. I don't really have much to say just yet, but interested in chatting if you want.

How was your weekend?

Re: Seeking connection

_Gigi_ — Thu, 04 Dec 2025 14:59:34 GMT

Hello Arra,

It's nice to meet you! I'm Gigi. I like board games, adding to my various collections, and drawing (although I'm not very good yet, but practice makes perfect). Your hobbies sound very interesting- especially mountain biking!

I hope you are able to find community here, and I'm always up to chat 😀

-Gigi

Nobody cares

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 08:58:08 GMT

I bet nobody will reply to this

nobody cares

Re: Nobody cares

Whatsinaname — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:03:30 GMT

I care

Re: Seeking connection

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:09:01 GMT

Yeah, well nobody cares in the real world

Re: Seeking connection

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:52:00 GMT

Appreciate the replies

realitu is I got nobody and nothing

no seevices wsnt to help me

people keep shutting the door in my face

I’m over it

but who’s listening? Nobody

Re: Seeking connection

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:52:23 GMT

the mod here emailed me didn’t even give me the right of reply

Re: Seeking connection

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:53:19 GMT

this is not like the sane forums where people respond

they picked on me and eventually told me I was too complex ironically too complex for a complex mental health services

bsnmed for life because I’m too hard not because I actually did anything wrong

Re: Seeking connection

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:54:27 GMT

and you know honestly these services they go to the conferences and then try to share some report or some crap to the public… I’m sitting right here with knowledge and experience of what is like and I know abandoning people when they need help doesn’t work

Re: Seeking connection

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:54:41 GMT

doesn’t take a genius to know that

Re: Seeking connection

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:55:14 GMT

Stupid

Re: Seeking connection

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:55:36 GMT

Nobody genuinely cares I know that for a fact

Re: Seeking connection

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:56:41 GMT

You either need to be a straightforward easy case or in crisis

I’m neither so I guess I just suffee

throw me in the pool hope I don’t drown type thing

Re: Nobody cares

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:57:37 GMT

Do you actually

Re: Nobody cares

Arra — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 09:58:01 GMT

cause it seems like nobody does a lot say they do but they don’t

Re: Nobody cares

Ggrand — Sun, 01 Mar 2026 01:28:58 GMT

Hello Dear Arra,

A very warm and caring welcome to the forums…

I am so sorry that you feel like no one cares for you, but I can say, here on the forums you will be cared for and be supported the best we can..

You have joined an amazing community family with very caring and beautiful people, people who do really care about the members here, and take some time out of there lives to help support complete strangers, with care, empathy and compassion….by trying to support them…

Can I just asked you Dear Arra, why you feel no one cares about you?….it might help us to be able to help support you a bit more…Did someone or something happen to make you feel uncared for…

Sending you a gentle caring hug 🤗, kind thoughts and care..

Grandy..

Re: Nobody cares

Arra — Sun, 01 Mar 2026 02:58:02 GMT

Had the door close on me from so many “support” services Grand

this forum is literally my final option I have tried it all

Somethings I need to work on are my trauma, anxiety, impulsiveness and social stuff

I accessed another forum for many years, made friends, helped shaped the service including some First Nations specific things, they supported me by building things into there forums to help support me

they abruptly took that support offering away and I struggled with the change, the things they built for me they said no longer worked for me (I told them it did) they knew that because I told them and asked for it be reviewed they kept saying no.
late last year I made a comment that they misinterpreted as bullying, they banned me for 3 months

I appealed and they decided instead of listening to my appeal they avoided answering critical questions, they said the 3 month ban was still standing. 2.5 into the 3 months they back flipped, banned for life. Said it was all too difficult.

I am just too hard for any service, I am too complex for the “complex mental health” service but not in crisis. There’s nothing for me.
Been told my whole life

- too angry

- too difficult

- why can’t you just follow the rules (I try).

- we can’t support you

- best of luck but this place isn’t for you

- we don’t know what to do with you

- the model doesn’t suit what your here for

- you broke the rules again (that I try so hard to follow)

- you are incapable of x

- we are sick of this/you/why is it so hard?

are all things I have been told since I was a little kid including from schools

I’m tired and I’m defeated

There has not been a day in my life I havenr had to stand up for myself or advocate for myself

Im exhausted

Services like that say they care when you contribute to the organisation and do great things Im the golden boy, wow aren’t you great great ideas thanks for all your help one day you could work here with us, but then when you show any sort of challenge or difficulty (remembering that it got worse for me when they pulled back their specific support they built FOR ME using my feedback) then I’m too difficult

They like me when it works for them basically

i try to be better day in day out,