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Hi guys

tommy-was-here — Thu, 11 Jun 2026 02:47:15 GMT

I'm pretty new to the idea of support through online forums but I'll take whatever might help right now. I'm 26 years old and currently in the worst depressive episode of my life. I have a new partner who is struggling to watch me drown in it, family who loves me and a good life. SO why do I feel so terrible all the time. Why do I feel so angry and sad all the time?

Re: Hi guys

Meowface — Thu, 11 Jun 2026 11:37:33 GMT

Because it’s real and you probably need to take steps to do something about it proactively vs worrying about why it’s happening. I hope that doesn’t come across the wrong way, I know myself I have wondered and wondered why, but sometimes that can make the cloud even bigger.

i find journaling really helpful to get my thoughts out onto the page, see them, validate them and then start researching strategies to move forwards. It could be anything, even going to speak to a GP or counsellor if you haven’t.

Be reassured that you definitely can feel better and so many of us beat ourselves up for having “great” lives but being depressed but that’s part of depression/anxiety and it’s okay. It doesn’t make what you’re going through any less hard.

Re: Hi guys

therising — Thu, 11 Jun 2026 19:52:29 GMT

The warmest of welcomes to you at a time in your life that has become so incredibly challenging in so many ways.

As a 55yo gal, I can say there has always been a reason for experiencing depressing episodes in my life (since my late teens), always. It was only later in life that I reached the conclusion 'If there's something seriously depressing going on with me, I'll definitely feel it at some point'. So, the question always becomes 'What the hell is it? What is it that I'm feeling the depressing side effects of?'. Btw, not our fault we can feel something depressing going on when we have the ability to feel it.

Personally, I start with the basics. 'Is this a physical/chemistry thing, a mental/psychological thing or does it have a 'dark night of the soul' vibe or could it be a mix of all three? If I can't work it out, I'll go looking for another detective (besides myself) who might be able to detect what's going on. My next port of call tends to be my kids. Both in their 20s, they're pretty intuitive people who have managed to pinpoint certain issues in the past. If they don't know, I'll then go to the GP and have blood tests done (to see why I have such a depressing lack of energy, if that's the case). If nothing shows up there, I'll consider asking others in my life. From their experience, they can sometimes lead me to consider a variety of things. With you coming here to the forums, you've ticked the box on that last one.

Based on my own experience, I'll offer what can be felt at depressing levels. A depressing level of B12 deficiency, sleep apnea, healthy relationships (as opposed to depressing ones), pregnancy miscarriage, a false and deeply depressing sense of self, seriously low energy levels where you can't feel life running through you, intensely depressing inner dialogue and/or external dialogue (harsh judgement), no sense of direction and a lack of much needed guidance, false and depressing beliefs, a depressing lack of much needed revelations (remaining in the dark about things), certain meds and the list goes on. What I haven't experienced the depressing side effects of involves ADHD, autism, iron deficiency, thyroid issues, trauma, dopamine transporter deficiency, extreme poverty etc etc. I do know people who've experienced different degrees of depression regarding that second list. In other words, when it comes to detecting or being a detective, it's about detecting what the depression could be related to. While there are plenty of things we could tick off the list straight away, there can be plenty of things left on the list of possibilities.

Btw, I can relate to the anger side of things. Sometimes it can involve the anger we can be feeling toward ourself, the anger felt when no one else seems to want to get in there and help us solve the mystery (being left alone to wonder), the anger felt when others are doing life quite happily (aka 'resentment'), the anger behind people waiting for us to 'snap out of it'. Waiting makes no difference, it's action that does. Sometimes it can involve the anger behind being told to stop feeling or sensing so much or being told to stop thinking or over analysing so much. My response to that would be 'I'm trying to get a feel for why I'm struggling/suffering. It's not my fault I can sense something depressing going on, while I'm trying to analyse the hell out of everything'. Let's get real, it can feel like hell on earth at times so why would we not want to analyse the hell out of things? A little heaven on earth goes a long way😊.

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tommy-was-here — Sat, 13 Jun 2026 00:57:49 GMT

Hi thanks so much for the reply. Definitely didn't come off the wrong way at all. It's nice to know I'm not alone in my feelings. I've spoken to my gp and I'm receiving some counselling in the coming days. What kind of journalling do you find most helpful?

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tommy-was-here — Sat, 13 Jun 2026 01:02:28 GMT

Thank you so much for your reply. I really appreciate your perspective. I'm glad that the anger isn't unique to me. I've struggled a lot with managing my anger so I'm glad I'm not the only one. I've recently had a really hard time with university and financial stress which I think has been a massive contributor. I'm also a trans man and I unfortunately had to come off hormones for a few months. I think now that those things have all been amended I'm wondering why things haven't just gone back to normal, but I think I forget that my brain is literally wired differently because of my experiences with depression.

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Happylife — Mon, 15 Jun 2026 04:06:13 GMT

Hello and a warm welcome to the forums. Thanks for sharing your mental health challenges, it takes a lot of courage to do so. Feeling sad isn't unusual and you are not alone, it's a normal human response to disappointment. Depression and sadness are rooted in how neurons communicate with each other, not in how many reasons you have to be happy.

If I may ask and if you feel like sharing, is there anything that happened lately to make you feel so sad? (as you mentioned "you are currently in the worst depressive episode").

It's good to hear that you have a very loving partner and family who supports you and that you have also spoken to your GP and going to receive counselling. This will definitely help the burden seem lighter.

If you feel low or sad, try to listen to some music or try spending some time in the sun or nature, it may be helpful.

Feeling sad all the time for no specific reason may suggest you could be experiencing something more complex than sadness alone, talking openly will help.

Please be gentle with yourself and remember that this sad feeling won't last forever.

Here to listen if you want to share more...

Take care

Happylife

Re: Hi guys

therising — Mon, 15 Jun 2026 08:54:35 GMT

Hi tommy-was-here

I hope more things continue to come to light which lead everything to make a lot more sense. To be able to say 'Of course, it all makes complete sense. No wonder I feel, think and behave in the ways I do. I can see it clearly now'. In the meantime we just keep on wondering. All the answers or reasons are there, they just haven't had light shed upon them yet.

I think when we're the only one who can feel certain angering factors we can be led to imagine it's just us, until we meet someone else who can feel them too. Pays to find someone who's good at getting a feel for what's angering. I smile when I say my 23yo daughter's my go to person for this. She can end up saying things like 'I can't believe it took you this long to feel how enraging that is' or 'Are you just feeling that now? What's wrong with you?'😅 or 'I've felt that particular type of anger before, I know what that is...'.