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I am not okay

Guest_48125435 — Sat, 09 Nov 2024 14:23:19 GMT

I am not okay and I don't have anyone to tell.

Re: I am not okay

sbella02 — Sat, 09 Nov 2024 14:43:03 GMT

Hey there, thank you so much for reaching out. We hope you can find some comfort and reassurance here on the forums.

What's been going on, if you'd feel comfortable sharing? You don't have to go into too much detail if you don't want to, but we may be able to help if there's something specific you're struggling with.

Otherwise, have you seen a GP, therapist, or psychologist before, or would you be open to it? Sometimes, it can be refreshing to hear a professional perspective and advice.

Please feel free to chat some more with us, we're here to help.

Re: I am not okay

Merricat — Sun, 10 Nov 2024 12:14:52 GMT

I feel exactly the same way. In the last couple of days I have spent about a total of 5 hours talking to Lifeline and the Suicide Callback Service crisis teams. I simply have noone else to talk to. I find it hard to be myself on this forum as I compare myself to others who seem more educated and more empathetic than me. If you are like me, all you can really do is ring the various crisis lines.

Sending you a big hug. Has anyone hugged you lately? I can't remember the last time someone hugged me. I'm here if you'd like to talk but I'm not very good at saying the right things.

Merricat 🌹

Re: I am not okay

Happylife — Tue, 12 Nov 2024 02:25:39 GMT

Hello and warm welcome to the forums.

Sorry to hear you are going through a tough time. You have come to the right place where you can talk freely if you want to open up and you will be heard without any judgement.

If I may ask and if you feel like talking, will you be able to share more so we can try and help you better?

Please also reach out to professionals if you are more comfortable to talk to them.

No matter what you are going through, please don't feel alone, while it might feel like you have no one to talk to, we are all here to listen and support you...

Take care

Happylife

Re: I am not okay

Bella78 — Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:32:46 GMT

Good evening,

I am so sorry to hear.

I am happy to assist as much as I can.

I strongly encourage you to speak to a medical professional.

Please don’t let it drag on.

You matter 🙂

Have a blessed evening.

Re: I am not okay

sbella02 — Sun, 17 Nov 2024 09:03:05 GMT

Hey again, how are you feeling now? Do you feel any better at all, or the same?

Merricat, I also hope you're doing okay, you sound like you're struggling too. What's been going on, is there anything you need our support with?

Re: I am not okay

Merricat — Mon, 18 Nov 2024 01:06:02 GMT

Hi sbella02

Thanks for asking how I am. I'm very much not okay. Spoke again to the Suicide Callback Service Helpline on Sunday night which help calm me down.

Unfortunately noone can help. Thanks again for checking in. Hope you are okay.

Merricat 🐱

Re: I am not okay

Happylife — Tue, 19 Nov 2024 00:06:06 GMT

Hello Guest and Merricat,

You both are amazing for hanging in there and holding on, no matter how hard things are.

Please don't feel alone, we are all here to listen and support if you want to share...

Take care

Happylife

Re: I am not okay

Eagle Ray — Tue, 19 Nov 2024 07:51:11 GMT

Hi Guest, Merricat and Everyone,

I really feel for you Guest and Merricat.

Merricat, I just want to reach out and say I have been in that place of calling the SCS, Lifeline etc multiple times just to regain even a semblance of stability. I also know what it’s like to not remember the last time I was hugged and what it is to live with extreme aloneness. I know it’s not the same but sending you the warmest virtual hug. Things have gotten a bit better for me and I’m not in such a torturous place now. I still have daily challenges but I’m learning to self-care in a way that I’m able to get through each a day a bit better. I just wanted to share that it’s not a living hell forever even though it can feel like it.

Also, I’ve read other lovely responses you have given on this forum and you are really empathetic and thoughtful and there are only positives there. So please don’t compare yourself to others and think you are any less because you write beautiful things of value and kindness.

It’s ok to be not ok and the same for you Guest. It’s ok to keep calling helplines when going through that and find that human connection and grounding. If you can find a therapist who is a really good fit for you, that can also make a difference. It can take time to find the right person and I know the cost can be a factor. I just wanted to send support so you don’t feel so alone.

Hugs,

Eagle Ray

Re: I am not okay

sbella02 — Sun, 24 Nov 2024 07:31:04 GMT

Merricat, I'm so sorry to hear that. If you feel comfortable sharing anything with us, you're more than welcome to, and we'll try to offer advice from our own experiences as best as we can. I can relate to you in the sense that I'm also somebody who has called Lifeline myself more than once, so I know what it's like to feel like your mental health has hit a rock bottom.

I know it may feel like no one can help, but I am of the belief that nothing is forever and there's always something you can do to feel even a little better - even though it doesn't always feel like it. Just know that we're here if you need/want to talk. Wishing you all the best. 🙂

Re: I am not okay

Empathuniverse — Sun, 24 Nov 2024 11:07:43 GMT

I am the same but I want to make it better for myself. Im not happy with being here. Trying to seek out what I need right now/ get help with what I am goin through. What is going on? Would you like to speak about it to us. I am the same as Merricat I may not always say the right things but I mean well and I care. Big Hug

Re: I am not okay

quirkywords — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 08:44:28 GMT

Guest thanks for your post . This is a place will you can talk freely and her support t.

Re: I am not okay

sbella02 — Sat, 30 Nov 2024 14:19:48 GMT

Empathuniverse, I'm so sorry to hear that you're also feeling like this - feel free to share anything that you'd like to as well, we're happy to give some advice if we can.

Re: I am not okay

quirkywords — Tue, 03 Dec 2024 09:14:11 GMT

Hello merricat,

I have read your post and am concerned. I am wondering how you are feeling today. I appreciate your honesty and sharing your experiences with others.

Re: I am not okay

sbella02 — Sun, 15 Dec 2024 08:44:57 GMT

Hey, how are you feeling today?

And Merricat and Empathuniverse, how are you both going as well?

Re: I am not okay

Guest_99907146 — Thu, 19 Dec 2024 20:50:23 GMT

Hello everyone, I am new to the forums and I sincerely hope that Merricat and Empathuniverse are on the upswing.

Alot of those feeling resonate with alot of us. This time of the year particularly hard and I know my mental health jumps of a diving board.

cheers

Raven

Re: I am not okay

Empathuniverse — Fri, 20 Dec 2024 19:06:16 GMT

Hello sbella02,

I am going good I have mostly had good days. I have booked into get some trauma abuse help for Monday. Which is a very positive step. I have never professionally seen anyone for what I have gone through. Its complicated. I also found a support group I can join to be proactive as well. I am reading various books to find the pieces of the puzzle so I can understand whats going on and have some direction. I have been working on replacing negative thoughts I have been conditioned to think with more constructive and connecting ones, going through, letting go and processing trauma. Some days its easier to bring the trauma out some days its not. I have CPTSD and some days it just feels easier to want to give up, hide and curl up in a ball but its not the way for me to lead a healthy life or to break free. I am regularily running, doing weights and eating healthy as an outlet. Still have a lot of work to do but I have started.

Re: I am not okay

sbella02 — Sun, 22 Dec 2024 10:23:38 GMT

I'm glad to hear that you've booked in to see somebody professionally, that's a great step that likely took a lot of courage so well done. It's also good that you're doing other things like running, eating healthy, reading, and joining a support group. They're all very important steps.

Feel free to continue chatting if you're struggling. Some days may be better than others, and we're here to chat on any of those days.

Wishing you lots of joy and good fortune during this Christmas and New Year period 🙂

Re: I am not okay

just-a-Dad — Sun, 22 Dec 2024 10:44:01 GMT

That's such an empty feeling, isn't it?

It's one of the hardest parts of life, when you feel alone with your problems.

People are here for you.

I know it's not the same, but talking to strangers does actually help.

Keep reaching out to others as much as you can (please)

Good people do exist.

You are stong enough to find a way throu this.

Everybody needs help at some point, beleave in yourself.

Re: I am not okay

Happylife — Mon, 06 Jan 2025 23:51:57 GMT

Hello Empathuniverse,

So good to hear you are taking professional help and doing activities to keep yourself mentally and physically fit.

Keep up the good work, take baby steps and don't put too much pressure on yourself.

Hope you feel more better.

Take care

Happylife