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difficult time

x__ — Sat, 27 Jul 2024 21:16:26 GMT

hello, new here

I'm going through a very difficult experience at the moment and I don't know who I can talk to about it

I thought this might be a good place to try

Re: difficult time

x__ — Sat, 27 Jul 2024 21:44:45 GMT

not sure why it says I'm a guest?

Re: difficult time

Ggrand — Sat, 27 Jul 2024 23:14:48 GMT

Hello Dear Guest_75597556,

A very warm and caring welcome to the forums,

We are all here for you when we can be…listening and supporting you the best we can…

I think now most new members start as a guest and you can change that by editing your user name under settings on you profile page to what you would like it to be…

Please feel free to talk about what you’re struggling through, only what you want to share…no pressure at all….we are here for you..

My kind thoughts,

Grandy..

Re: difficult time

x__ — Sun, 28 Jul 2024 00:39:01 GMT

thank you for the welcome

looks like I can't change my name so I shall have to remain as a guest

I suppose that means I get treated as a guest 😉

Re: difficult time

x__ — Sun, 28 Jul 2024 00:53:02 GMT

anyway I'm going through an experience that is one of the worst anyone could go through and that I find people just can't relate to, so I end up feeling 100% alone

Re: difficult time

Ggrand — Sun, 28 Jul 2024 06:21:07 GMT

Hello Dear x—,

I’m sorry you’re going through a very bad experience and struggling a lot…..I think it’s hard for people to relate to things that they haven’t experienced….

I’m wondering if you’ve reached out to your Dr for some professional help to help you get through what your going through right now…maybe something to consider, especially if it’s interfering with your daily life…Your Dr might set you up with a counsellor/psychologist to help you manage better…

My kind thoughts,

Grandy..

Re: difficult time

x__ — Sun, 28 Jul 2024 06:29:38 GMT

(looks like the display names need to be approved -- would be nice if this were made clear)

Re: difficult time

x__ — Sun, 28 Jul 2024 06:31:31 GMT

hi @ggrand

trust me I've exhausted the medical options at this point

Re: difficult time

ABC01 — Sun, 28 Jul 2024 08:54:37 GMT

Dear x_,

I am sorry to hear that you are going through a really difficult time. It is hard when you don't have people you can rely on to talk too. This is a good place to try. I hope you have a safe place to be and are looking after yourself even if it is a hard thing to do. There are always people who are here to reply.

ABC01

Re: difficult time

Happylife — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 01:14:46 GMT

Hello X_,

Welcome to the forums!!!

Sorry to hear you are going through a difficult time at the moment and especially when you feel there is no one to support you. You are stronger than you think and you are definitely not alone in this. You have come to the right and safe place where we listen and try to help you as much as we can.

Also, please remember all things good or bad are temporary and won't last forever as difficult as it now, it will get better. It's completely ok to feel what you are feeling especially when you are going through a whirlwind of emotions and seems like nobody is understanding you. Take your time to go through these emotions/feelings and please don't be harsh on yourself.

We are all here for you, take care...

Re: difficult time

x__ — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 02:29:29 GMT

thanks @abc01 and @happylife

yes, I've learned that I'm stronger than I thought, but I don't know if I'm as strong as I need to be to get through this

yes, believing that the situation is temporary is one of the things that has helped me so far, and practically speaking that must be true, but it's become clear that that does not mean "brief" and that there are people with more resources than I who are determined to drag things on for quite some time

thanks for the words about feelings and self-judgement, but the good news is that you're preaching to the choir in that regard