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Just wanted to say hello

SleepyRain — Wed, 24 Jul 2024 13:21:30 GMT

Hello everyone, I signed up a couple of months ago but this is my first post. I'm hoping to feel comfortable enough to open up, so maybe I can find a way to deal with everything going on in life like everybody else I guess because I have no idea where to start.

Re: Just wanted to say hello

therising — Wed, 24 Jul 2024 20:27:15 GMT

The warmest of welcomes to you, SleepyRain 🙂

Of course, everyone's different but for me I find the easiest place to start is with how I feel or how I'm feeling life, situations, people, my inner dialogue etc. For example, I might get a sense at times of myself

twisting in the wind with no sense of direction
feeling completely lost, again with no sense of direction
not being able to feel high end emotions
not being able to feel any inspiration from anything or anyone
feeling such a lack of energy to the point where it's seriously depressing
feeling the kinds of people who bring me down or stress me out

and the list goes on. That's the thing with being a feeler, there's so much to feel, sometimes to the point of having to sift out exactly what it is I'm feeling. Can be hard at times. I think what's even harder is when we've kinda been taught or conditioned to suppress feelings just about our whole life, rather than question them and explore them. I tend look at it as 'Okay, while I've been conditioned to stop sensing how I feel, now I'm being challenged to come to my senses or come back to them'. Amazing how, as kids, we might have been a highly sensitive ranter or venter in relation to sensing what we felt as great injustice. This is also known as 'having a full blown highly expressive tantrum'. While that freedom fighter may be conditioned out of us over time or smacked out of us or even beaten out of us (as is the case for some), the people pleaser is conditioned into us. Then, as adults, we may find our self becoming more and more intolerant when it comes to struggling with injustice (dished out by a triggering boss, a challenging partner etc). While some may say 'You need to learn to control your anger', others may question 'Can you sense the intolerant freedom fighter in you gradually coming back to life? What are you on the verge of fighting for? What is the injustice you feel?'.

Re: Just wanted to say hello

SleepyRain — Wed, 24 Jul 2024 22:59:05 GMT

Hello therising

Thank you for your reply, it was a very interesting way of seeing things. I'll try and put myself out more.

Re: Just wanted to say hello

Happylife — Thu, 25 Jul 2024 00:50:18 GMT

Hello SleepyRain,

Welcome to the forums!!! This is a great and safe place to start whether you are looking for information, advice or just want to participate in any conversation without judgement. So, good on you for taking the first step👍

I can understand it can be very hard to open up and discuss personal feelings. There is No pressure or rush to open up and you can do so in your own time, when you feel ready and comfortable.

For starters, if you feel like you can talk about "what makes you happy?"

Please remember that you are not alone in this journey, we are all facing some or the other issues/challenges but we are all here for each other.

I am always happy to listen and support if you feel like chatting more.

Hugs to you, take care...

Happylife

Re: Just wanted to say hello

SleepyRain — Thu, 25 Jul 2024 07:53:06 GMT

Thank you happylife, i will keep that all in mind.

Re: Just wanted to say hello

ABC01 — Thu, 25 Jul 2024 09:53:04 GMT

Hello SleepyRain,

Definitely love the handle name.
I haven’t been on the forums that long, but I just honestly say what I feel when feel it,when I post. If I have a question, I ask it. If I need to get something off my chest, I write it. There is no right or wrong emotion to start with. You may also choose to answer other posts before posting your own discussion.

I hope to see you in the forums soon.

ABC01

Re: Just wanted to say hello

SleepyRain — Tue, 30 Jul 2024 07:32:41 GMT

Thank you ABC01, i guess starting with this small post here helps to get into things.