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Feeling Lost

grlmummy — Mon, 04 Mar 2024 01:24:22 GMT

I'm a mum to 2 girls. They have been my life. I've never been happily married so I've devoted my life to my kids. Last year one of them turned 15 and I've been in a downward spiral since. I'd noticed things weren't the same with her, I wasn't needed. I know I can't live through her but I'm really struggling. My routines are completely shot, I no longer have interest in the things I used to. I'm not motivated. I just dont know what to do...I'm so lost. I feel without her I don't have a life.

Re: Feeling Lost

quirkywords — Mon, 04 Mar 2024 10:59:02 GMT

Welcome grimummy,

Thanks for sharing your story honestly.

I had a chaotic marriage too and when my marriage ended and children were in late teens.

i I felt lost as they seemed to feel for their dad because the felt he needed their help and I didn’t.
i am not sure how to help but I understand.

Do you any paid or volunteer work or do you have a hobby or passion you have not explored. Doing something you like doing may help you.

You will find that will always need you . You have built a strong foundation and they will reach out when the need to.

Re: Feeling Lost

RainbowCuddle — Tue, 05 Mar 2024 20:37:44 GMT

Hi there, I am a mum to 2 kids too. I haven't been happy with my marriage but me and my husband work together as a team to get things done. I agree with suggestions of looking at things like volunteer work, a hobby or a passion. I joined up and did free online exercise and I take my neighbour's dog for a walk (sometimes with the kids) to get away for a bit. The most important thing is to find some time for you!