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Hello intro

Wagtail84 — Wed, 09 Aug 2023 05:59:41 GMT

Hi there you can call me Wag,

I’m here because today was a particularly bad day, out of what has felt like a bit of a never ending sea of not great days…

I’ve browsed and lurked the forums for a bit on and off before and this does seem like a safe space and a place with real people

going through the very real things I feel myself- and seem to be alone in experiencing.
I will find time to put my own issues up for advice and support at some point but for now just saying hi and also that if I can add to the place

also I will try

thank you

Hi Wagtail84, I’m Sophie, I moderate the Beyond Blue...

Sophie_M — Wed, 09 Aug 2023 06:19:33 GMT

Hi Wagtail84,

I’m Sophie, I moderate the Beyond Blue forums. Welcome to the forums and thank you for sharing your experience and offering support to other users. I'm sorry to hear you've been having a tough time, although it's great you could share this here. We can hear you've been having a bad day and a tough time generally at the moment, please know that you can reach out to us at any time, we’re on 1300 22 4636, or you can use our webchat here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/

Thanks again for being so open here. We know how hard it can be to talk about feelings like this, we hope you can see it as a step towards feeling better and our other community members will be able to share their insights.

Kind regards,

Sophie M

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Ggrand — Wed, 09 Aug 2023 06:47:19 GMT

Hello Dear Wagtail84,

A very warm and caring welcome to our forums..

I’m so sorry you’re struggling through some bad days and today being a particularly bad day, I’m pleased you have joined our wonderful forums, which I think is a great step in reaching out for help..

We are all here for Wagtail, listening and hoping to support you through your bad days….No hurry at all to share your story, in your own time Dear Wag….for now I just wanted to welcome you and in time hopefully get to know you better…

My kind thoughts with my care Wagtail….and a friendly caring hug..

Grandy..

Re: Hi Wagtail84, I’m Sophie, I moderate the Beyond Blue...

Wagtail84 — Wed, 09 Aug 2023 09:26:43 GMT

Thank you so much

wag

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Wagtail84 — Wed, 09 Aug 2023 09:28:12 GMT

Hey there Grandy,

Thank you for the very kind reply…

hopefully I can reciprocate

wag

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Richju — Sat, 12 Aug 2023 04:42:14 GMT

Hi Wag,

Sorry to hear about your bad day and I hope you are feeling a lot better since writing your post. I find it is always better to get things out rather than bottling them up so I think you are on the right track by sharing your story. We are hear to support and help you in any way we can and would be interested to hear more of your thoughts and feelings.

Feelings of hopelessness can pervade our system, making us feel constantly tired and unmotivated. My worst time was when my second child was a baby and I felt so inadequate because I was tired yet I wouldn't accept any help.

I hope you can be kind to yourself - delegate to others and relax where you can. I found sleep most healing even if I needed to take sleeping tablets for a while.

Warmest regards,

Richju

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Wagtail84 — Sat, 12 Aug 2023 12:41:37 GMT

Thanks for the kind words Richju, yes you’re right - better out than in they say!
Hopefully you yourself have found better days and more positive times since.
Wag x

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Guest_1282 — Sun, 13 Aug 2023 08:54:59 GMT

Hey Wag hope ur going well, yeah Ive had a lot of numb days and things like that- so can feel you there. Nothing changes anyway yeah hope ur going well and all the best

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Wagtail84 — Mon, 14 Aug 2023 00:44:39 GMT

Hi Stephen

It can feel very much like being stuck on a treadmill yes, I wonder if there is ever a day when it won’t feel like this all the time

But I try to stay positive hopeful you find something to cheer you up today

wag x

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Guest_1282 — Mon, 14 Aug 2023 12:24:46 GMT

Yeah going well today thanks, good on you for that attitude

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Richju — Tue, 15 Aug 2023 04:23:57 GMT

Hey Wag,

Sorry to hear you're still feeling down. I know it can feel that you'll never recover but my issues happened many years ago and I've recovered through meditation and gentle exercise.

I understand that when negative thoughts take hold, we can feel so bad. The thoughts seem to take control and we can start to believe that no one cares and nothing will change. I have found that meditation is a great help in learning to control these intrusive thoughts.

We all make mistakes, hurt others and are hurt in return but going over and over those things serves no purpose. We cannot fix what has happened but we can learn from it.

Meditation has helped me to concentrate on what's happening right now and, as I write this, I'm grateful for my warm bed, the birdsong I can hear outside and I'm looking forward to the activities of today, when I attend my craft group.

It does take time Wag, but I belirve that we can find something good in each day to be thankful for.

Is there a beach or a park you can walk to and sit and enjoy the sun and perhaps watch children playing? I have found that even a 10 minute walk each day can be beneficial.

I'm here for you if you'd like to reply. As I mentioned, I have been in a dark place like yours and would be more than happy to support you through this.

Very warm regards,

Ruchju

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Wagtail84 — Fri, 18 Aug 2023 10:43:56 GMT

You’re a legend thanks for the supportive tips- and I’m glad you’ve found a couple of ways to reset your thinking and mentality.

I struggle with it a little bit sometimes, just because I get a few physiological pangs and I have some physical health issues that combine with my anxiety to make a sort of perfect storm.
it’s usually a mix of hopelessness, fatigue, self loathing or doubt, and anger at how my body lets me down.
So tonight I’m spiralling a bit with some pain and trying to just let things flow, if there’s a panic attack coming the whole Idea of white-knuckling it alone is making things worse and I’m trying to head that off by coming on here…

I hope really hope everyone else is doing good- and not feeling isolated like this or if you’re going through something reach out and even just a word or two or writing a line or two might help.

wag x

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Richju — Sat, 19 Aug 2023 02:36:12 GMT

Hi again Wag,

So lovely to hear from you. You are sounding more positive and congratulations on your strength and courage in dealing with your physical as well as mental pain.

Isolation is difficult to deal with, especially when your are unwell so this forum is excellent for reaching out to others. Panic attacks are frighteneing and I find it best to concentrate on my breathing when they happen. If things get really bad, I try to count my breaths or just repeat 'in and out' as I breathe.

Are you managing to get a little exercise? Now the weather is warming up it's nice to sit outside in the sun for a while. I'm not sure if you like gardening but I'm putting some strawberries and passionfruit in pots at the moment. I enjoy caring for my plants and watching them grow.

I was sad to hear of your self-loathing. You seem such a lovely person and I hope you can begin to love yourself just a little by congratulating yourself as I mentioned above, by eating good food and caring for your body. I began with little things such as moisturising after my shower, having a cup of green tea first thing in the morning, having a good stretch if I was too tired to go for a walk.

It will take time Wag but please don't despair and please contact me whenever you feel down or whenever your are congratulating yourself. I really want to hear about all of it and look forward to your next post.

Take care and love yourself,

Warmest regards,

Richju xx