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Just saying hello on here.

Joe_s — Tue, 12 Jul 2022 14:28:55 GMT

Hey. I'm in my forties, male. Just ended up here. Saw there is a lot of other people coming on here talking about their situations. Don't like talking about myself. Like to talk about other stuff. I will say I have had a lot of problems in my life. And seem to have gotten to a point where things are looking positive. Really don't know how I'm alive and functioning. I believe it is God had some purpose for me, he wanted me to experience the bad in life and live to help someone else get through it. I think I am in a permanent state of denial of how bad my situation is. I broke up with my girlfriend about five years ago. I have had break ups before but this time haven't been able to recover for too many years. I tried my very best but it wasn't meant to be. I know I was getting played from day one. Just don't understand how stupid I was. Yeah just thought I'd try to talk to somebody on here. Not very good at talking to people on the internet. Yeah I've looked all over for some kind of help. Can't seem to find any. But that's ok. I think I'm gonna make it. There is too much I need to do in my life, and it feels as though I haven't started living a normal life yet. I've lived my whole life in fear. Finally I am able to stand up for myself and try to do the right thing. Sorry don't know how much sense I am making. But still think it is worth a try to talk on here. Yeah a lot of problems going on I was going to these meetings for support but decided to stop a fair while ago. And quit taking medication. Now I just study and do some exercise as much as I can. Yeah one thing I know is how bad this world can be. But I have overcome the bad and am ready for the good. Yeah feel free to say hello to me on here but sorry in advance for my poor internet conversation skills, I guess talking online is something I am afraid of.

Re: Just saying hello on here.

geoff — Tue, 12 Jul 2022 16:26:04 GMT

Hello JoeSmith, welcome to the forums, sometimes when talking on the these formats, people say what's troubling them, rather than when they talk face to face they may tend to hide how they are feeling.

There are people who can relate to what you're saying, so please feel welcomed.

Geoff.

Life Member.

Re: Just saying hello on here.

Joe_s — Tue, 12 Jul 2022 17:05:13 GMT

Geez thanks man. Yeah people do seem to not talk about their problems face to face that much, in my experience anyway. You are right. Me being one of them. I find these days many people don't talk face to face to anyone at all about anything, let alone feel comfortable enough to talk about what's bugging them. Well thankyou very much for saying hello. I am one of the lucky ones that has survived and can promise everyone going through hard times, really bad times, hey it's worth the effort to keep trying. And finally one day things may seem to make sense and the worst is behind you and you are grateful for every day that you can try to do something in this world. Sorry to talk so much. I thought for many years I wouldn't make it in any way. But here I am planning to build a house. I feel like I have traveled a million miles just to say hello. And that's good enough for me for one day. I will make the most of tomorrow and never give up trying, even though I am getting old. Thankyou again Geoff.

Re: Just saying hello on here.

geoff — Tue, 12 Jul 2022 20:34:44 GMT

Hello JoeSmith, thanks for getting back to us.

MI can devastate so many people in so many different ways, nothing like they had ever expected and won't know how it affects their life until they eventually suffer from it, and it may be nothing like they had thought that it's powers are extrememly so strong.

JoeSmith to plan to build a new home is such an enormous accomplishment and what you should be proud of, and remember we all have rough days and may not be avoidable, but if you can pick yourself up after that horrible day, that's definitely a bonus you should be proud of.

Try and keep us informed.

Geoff.

Life Member.

Re: Just saying hello on here.

smallwolf — Tue, 12 Jul 2022 21:02:01 GMT

hey there and welcome.

it can he hard in a space like this where if you have a long (?) story to tell and there is some imposed character limit that you have to work out what to write. And there are plenty of other reasons why you might not want to write. That's cool too. So I feel the story you put onto the forums at the top is what was meant to be.

Wat I can tell you is the people here are all friendly and non-judgemental so will get a lot of support.

What would you like to chat about? Or, tell me what you are studying?

Wanting to find out more about you.

Re: Just saying hello on here.

Petal22 — Wed, 13 Jul 2022 06:46:27 GMT

Hi Joesmith,

Wellcome to our forums.

I understand completely what you are saying.

I believe that we go through certain things in life so we can come out the other side to help others.

Sometimes we can look back at our paths and understand why things happened the way they did for us.

Our challenges in life certainly build us into stronger, wiser people.

For me I have a lived experience of severe anxiety OCD this condition bought me to my knees but while I was in the grips of OCD I learned so many things about my self and the person I wanted to become.

I believe God put through this condition so I could endure it and see what I needed to see so I could come out the other side with a valuable insight and be able to help others who are going through something similar.

I believe my life purpose is to help others and now I can in a new pro found way from the insights I have now.

I see what I went through now as a blessing at the time I couldn't see this but now I can.

I believe everyone in life has a life purpose they just need to believe it and then work on bringing it into their reality, please keep believing in your life purpose because you can help many maybe you will never know how many.

I'm glad that your life is looking positive.

That's fantastic that you are planning on building a house.

Re: Just saying hello on here.

jaz28 — Wed, 13 Jul 2022 07:14:15 GMT

Hi Joe Smith,

Welcome to the forums! No do not apologize - you did great and we are glad to have you here.

I am happy to see that you have a positive outlook on life and that you believe you have a purpose here. It is true - life has good times and bad times for every. single. person and I believe that it all happens for a reason, or to teach us something.

I look forward to chatting and I hope you do start to share some of your stories, we would love to hear and support you.

All the best,

jaz xx

Re: Just saying hello on here.

ecomama — Wed, 13 Jul 2022 13:40:37 GMT

Welcome to the forums JoeSmith, it's great you joined and we look forward to hearing more about you, your life and plans in the pipeline.

Building a house? wow that's awesome, good on you!
Are you in the Building Industry?

Beneath the realisations of "some people" 🙄, you sound like a resilient man who strives to maintain a positive outlook on life.

Hopefully you pop back in to share more, until then take care!

Re: Just saying hello on here.

Joe_s — Sat, 16 Jul 2022 20:45:20 GMT

Hello Jaz 28, thankyou for your kind reply. You are proof that there is nice people in this world
even if we sometimes doubt or forget this. Already feeling super self conscious about writing on here.
But that is why I'm doing it to overcome my fear. I am trying to reply to all the kind welcomes. Thankyou again ,
thankyou thankyou thankyou! Will try to contribute. God bless you.

Re: Just saying hello on here.

Joe_s — Sat, 16 Jul 2022 21:05:46 GMT

Hey, thankyou for your kind welcome Ecomama.

Not working on the building site at the moment. Unemployed unfortunately. But that's okay working on my own
projects bit by bit every day and night. Until I eventually find a 9 to 5. Thankyou for showing interest.
Believe it or not I am trying to start an internet company that
solves some of the worlds problems. I know it sounds crazy and off topic, but have been working on this for years.
Mainly organic farming and kind of city building kind of idea. Much work to do but believe it is the right thing
and I always have more research to do and have a never ending to do list which keeps my mind
off the past and all the problems. All it cost me so far is a plastic desk, budget computer
internet connection and a lot of my time. Maybe I have a different outlook on life from all the mental health
issues which I have managed to survive. That has kind of got me In a situation that I'm trying to race against the
clock to do as much as I can in the short time we have on this planet.

Hey thanks again for all the kind welcomes. Kind of feel like I don't deserve it. But hey that's the self loathing
and low self esteem kicking in again. But now I have proof of my work and knowledge that I can share
so I know my time on this planet has not been wasted and has all been fully worth it. And have much more to offer.
God bless you Ecomama

Re: Just saying hello on here.

rhombusslope — Sun, 17 Jul 2022 14:01:48 GMT

Hi JoeSmith

nice to meet you - I got such a warm interested feeling when reading your post, had to come and say hey.

talking about yourself is hard - I struggle with it too. But it seems no one in the world has this issue (lol) so trying to teach myself it’s okay to take the microphone sometimes.

Good luck with the house build - that’s exciting! Sounds like a lot of hard work went into it. I’m doing some reno’s with my partner - it’s been a bit stressful.

What type of stuff are you studying? I’ve gone back to study psychology and about to turn 30. It’s easier to concentrate now vs when I was 18!

glad to hear you are optimistic when looking toward the future - you will definitely get to where you want to go 🙂

Re: Just saying hello on here.

ecomama — Sun, 17 Jul 2022 14:24:14 GMT

Thankyou so much for the Blessings JoeSmith, they are most welcome.

I admire the work you are endeavouring to do in the ways of organic farming. Love that!
I studied Permaculture years ago, got a Scholarship for it. Before that I studied Biodynamics, so if you REALLY want to go on an AWESOME adventure with being green, these are it!
Both are amazing.

Pursuing our passions is a great investment of our time IMO. It can spark joy in us that's not necessarily dependent on other people.

Sounds like you're re-forming your life?
My children and I are on the road to creating better lives also. This was after a series of "scorched earth" events by a very demonic creature.

Have you heard of M.Scott Peck? I was comforted by his audiobook available for free online called "People of the Lie" and C.S. Lewis's "The Screwtape Letters".
Both authors were believers and these books cover the way evil people can be. I found these both comforting and enlightening. Probably because such highly acclaimed people saw what I saw. I didn't feel alone anymore.

I also have trouble feeling worthy, a FOO issue lol. I just work my hardest and try to provide well for my children, whilst modelling HOW to be a responsible adult with kindness.

Faith has helped me rise above so much, whilst therapy has helped me process my ole human brain and it's wiring due to trauma. I'm fortunate to have both.

Good luck with the online company AND getting a great job!

Talk soon
EM