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Giving and Receiving Support with Difficult Days

Guest_05 — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 16:18:43 GMT

Hello--- like many here on the beyond blue forums, I too am among the millions who suffer from mental health. So just saying Hello.

Giving and Receiving Support with Difficult Days

Ggrand — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 18:22:39 GMT

Hello Dear Malaika,

A very warm and caring welcome to the forums...

It’s really nice to meet you...

I hope these forums are as beneficial to you as it has been for me and so many more here...

You’re very welcome to share how your feeling and your thoughts anytime you feel up to it..as much or as little as you want to...There is no pressure...

There are heaps of different thread on the forums, about depression, anxiety, PTSD....and many more topics...that if you feel like it, you can read and if your up to it join in the conversation....

My kind and caring thoughts...Dear Malaika..

Grandy..

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Matchy69 — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 21:20:14 GMT

Hi Malaika and I to would like to welcome you to the forums.This a great caring environment for people with mental health problems.
Take care,
Mark.

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missep123 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 00:10:17 GMT

Hi Malaika!

A huge warm welcome to the forums!

We are a non-judgmental, caring bunch here!

We look forward to hearing from you!

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Guest_05 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 04:38:45 GMT

Hello to those who have made me feel very welcomed by your kind gentle words contributed by grandy, matchy and missep.Thankyou. Yes I've read so many posts already on the beyond blue forums and can say that I have personally experienced a bit of Everything of what others have written about themselves. I don't know how to write things about myself as I've never done this yet in my life but do know that I wouldn't be on the beyond blue forums if I didnt suffer from mental health. Thankyou for Your kind Welcome.

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Matchy69 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 05:04:57 GMT

Hi Malaika it can be hard and daunting tlat first trying to describe what's going on.I struggled with that all my life with communication and trying to describe what's going on.I just describe it the best way I can.I am finding the more I post about myself more easier it gets.I hope you can tell us more in your words.Maby join in on a thread you feel a connection with.
Take care,
Mark.

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Guest_05 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 05:40:13 GMT

Thank you for your post, matchy. I'm a very deep thinker type of a person who seems to have a the ability to help others sort out with their problems in many areas of their lives but unable to help myself when it's my turn. Communication skills I lack miserably in so many areas that I seem to turn people away instead gravitating them towards me. I really don't know what I say or do so wrong that people run away from me as fast and far as they can leaving an dreadful empty void I my life that I'm struggling so hard contend with. It's so much easier to help others but we're often too emotionally blind to see ourselves how others see and hear us. Hope this make sense. Thank you

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amberlite — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 05:51:55 GMT

Hello to everyone and welcome, welcome to new posters. I do like the new image, the natural order seems so much simpler, I do like simple! I'm yet to see you post anything odd, you seem intelligent and if you find helping others easier, then that makes you extra compassionate. You may find people on this forum Get You in ways others can not.

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Matchy69 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 06:12:32 GMT

Hi Malaika I have a great problem talking on person.I have to write down everything before I go to the doctor or wherever.I really struggle explaining my self .On here I can take my time and not feel pressured.Sometimes I write things on here and just delete it as didn't like what I have written and started again.I have been told I am a really good listener and actually listen and know what the person had said and that I care.I think we all express our selves differently as we are all unique .
Take care,
Mark.

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Guest_05 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 06:58:34 GMT

Thank you for the compliment, amberlite. You had written-"you may find people of this forum Get You in ways that others can not". A very interesting statement. It has it's Pros and Cons. It's very important to recognize one's own limitations. Without recognizing, there's can be consequences. Simplicity is the key and paramount in my life. Nice talking with you.:)

Matchy thank you for sharing. I do the same as you do to by writing things down before seeing a doctor. It really helps without the extra stress and get the much needed things discussed.. It takes me so long to write just one post. I don't know how to keyboard. This allows me to think very carefully before I put it on paper or on my device. That's an excellent quality you have there, matchy being a good listener 🙂 Listening is an art these days. Being a good listener gives you the insight of how people feel and think. I'm very similar and yet not Thank you for posting to me.

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Guest_05 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 11:30:27 GMT

Hello grandy. Nice meeting you too. I had read a several of your posts on other threads. You have a very kind nice disposition of expressing yourself to make others feel so cimfortable. I can't seem to open up to anyone of how I truly feel due to severe past hurts throughout my life. Some have been resolved, most haven't as the other parties refuse to make any type of reconciliation. I have so much fear within myself and at a standstill going nowhere thank you for caring with kind regards.

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Guest_4643 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 11:36:02 GMT

hello there malaika, welcome. i love your profile picture.

i hope you enjoy the forums and can find some support for yourself.

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Guest_05 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 12:10:03 GMT

Thank you mb for your lovely words and likewise too hope you'll receive the same. With kind regards

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Guest_4643 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 12:22:54 GMT

thank you, i hope you enjoy your time here. i'm usually around often if you'd like to chat here or any thread (no pressure to though).

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amberlite — Thu, 01 Apr 2021 01:16:20 GMT

Darls, there is only- PRO'S- with the people, in these forums getting you, more than the general population does, simply that and nothing more. See we do get you and we will not turn away , our understanding love will always have us, gravitate towards you.

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Guest_05 — Thu, 01 Apr 2021 07:08:23 GMT

Good afternoon amberlite. Thank you for your input I'll put it in the back burner for a while before I disclose more of myself. I've noticed here on the beyond blue forums there are all age groups of people combined. Before joining up I was rather hesitant until I saw a section for older ones. I got the impression the way beyond blue advertised it there were different segments, only to find out that's not the case. I know from my experience in life dealing with all sorts of people from all walks of life, of all age groups there's still so much we all can learn from each other regardless of age difference. There's only so much I can take up on board of helping others at present and that's not being selfish. It's being balanced. As matchy, others too, had suggested in welcoming me to the forums, it was explained in such easy to understand manner I can write as much I or as little I wish. No obligation. it was also suggested perhaps to join onto other threads which I have already do so. Since I've limitations of much I can give of myself, I decided to keep it simple, light hearted until I regain that inner strength once again before I can to go into the deeper tropics in helping others. There are some very sad situations here on the beyond blue forums and many have helped each other in remarkable ways. It's so encouraging to read. Most of us can help others by sharing our own personal experiences in life always hoping there's a positive outcome. Thank you for reading. With kind regards

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Croix — Thu, 01 Apr 2021 10:16:57 GMT

Dear Malaika ~

Keeping things simple and light-hearted can be a tonic here on the Forum. In your reading you will have noticed how hard things are for so many. Quite often it is not just wise words, care, or even the experiences of others that always helps.

A little light - not necessarily connected with their circumstances - can breed a feeling of well being at times when other things are simply too heavy to deal with.

So by saying as much or as little as you are comfortable with, and simply having a presence, you are doing OK. If you have not already done so can I suggest seek out some of the threads on the social pages and see if there are any you would enjoy

Croix

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Guest_05 — Sat, 03 Apr 2021 07:52:15 GMT

Hello. thankyou Croix for your post. The suggestion given about " keeping it simple and light hearted can be a tonic here on the Forums.

Food for thought.

I've ALWAYS kept my life simple as I've already written it several times on my posts to others. Its paramount. It's an absolute MUST for me so when those dark days creep in its much easier to cope without stressing about unnecessary things. It's always been one of my many coping strategies over the years of experience dealing with people. So keeping it simple and lighthearted is a great to enjoy life on a more postive way.

Was reading your background on the forums in this section. I haven't any of those qualifications as you have yet do know 'how" to deal with people in general within my limitations.

I suffer from severe anxiety/depression/ptsd/ along with a whole host of other mental health issues. Can to intensify with age and at times comes in the most unexpected ways so having good coping strategies is vital for me.

I'm still both a student and a teacher. None of is Never stop learning regardless our age. (We're about in the same age groups) Age shouldn't prevent us learning, helping, giving of oneself to others, so others may benefit from any suggestions given.

What's written above is a brief outline about my mental health introduction.

Thank you reading. With kind regards.

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Croix — Sat, 03 Apr 2021 09:26:38 GMT

Dear Malaika~

Thank you for saying more about yourself (I did not think there were many here as distant from their birthdays as myself, so finding a fellow traveler is very pleasing:)

I do have a thread called "Store your happy memories here"

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/store-your-happy-memories-here-

whch is a place people can write down pleasant experiences they have had. I've found this helps others, and also the writers themselves as they are reminded when down how life can be. You might care to have a glance though.

I've the same diagnosis as yourself and can say the traumas were a long time ago and my condition has overall consistently improved over the years. Not gone, but manageable.

Qualifications are misleading, I'm a volunteer here just as you are, and came to find more information about coping with my conditions, and you are right, we all learn as we live on. Plus helping others is a two way street, the act helps me too.

I like your avatar, reminds me of my birthplace. Is also something with very little to do with the mental health theme - a glimpse outside at a different world.

Croix

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missep123 — Sun, 04 Apr 2021 00:24:46 GMT

Hi Malaika!

I am so glad to see that many have posted here in support of you! I hope that you have felt welcomed and comfortable here. From your posts I can see that you have a lot of insight (a great thing to see!). As you mentioned you are a deep thinker I think that this will help you process and work on achieving the outcome you want to achieve. We are going to cheer you on every step of the way!