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Not coping

Totally_lost — Thu, 30 Jan 2020 10:00:20 GMT

im in a no win situation

my parents are both ill and I care for them full time.
I care for children who are not mine.

i have a husband who is not supportive and doesn’t care

i am. Very ill and can’t do treatment Cos my siblings don’t help with parents

I’m suffering from anxiety

im now not coping I’m angry and I’m crying all the time my husband is always rude to me he says dumb things disrespectful things to me.

but to others he makes out like he is the most caring and wonderfull guy. Not true.
im at a loss what can I do

im just not in a good place

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Leah1970 — Fri, 31 Jan 2020 01:19:31 GMT

I know your pain. I was my mums carer. Have you looked into respite? You are facing carers burnout. You are doing a fantastic thing that many people couldn't do. I know i don't have much to offer but i am more than willing to help you with finding some time out for you. You need to fix you first. Don't underestimate the wonderful thing you are doing.

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Totally_lost — Mon, 10 Feb 2020 21:03:27 GMT

ive looked into respite but dad will not go.
he refuses. I also care for 3 kids who are not mine. And they are disrespectful and my husband allows it to hapoen

i just want to walk away from everyone I’m exhausted and don’t know if I can get over this.
Thanku so much ur a blessing nice to know I’m not alone.
😊😊❤️

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Matchy69 — Mon, 10 Feb 2020 22:03:40 GMT

Hi totaly lost,i can feel your pain of what you are going through.I was a full time carer for my mother who was terminally ill with cancer for 3 years.It was not an easy job just looking after one parent.I did have a little support from my brother but he was usally to busy and i did most of it.Like you my health wasnt great but just put my mother first.I have two special needs children and they got neglected as it was just a full time job looking after mum.The last two weeks she was put into palliative care and she did not want to go there and put up a fight.It still breaks my heart to this day.

I know you can get someone to come around for a few hours and look after your parents.It is really a shame your sibblings dont help and give you a break.And it is not accetable what your husbands kids do to you.

Take care,

Mark.

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Totally_lost — Tue, 11 Feb 2020 10:49:32 GMT

thanku I’m sorry u had to go through similar. The kids are actually my husbands brothers kids and the abuse I hAve recieved from my husbands family is ridiculous
as far as dad n Mum I have an agency but the hours are only 5 a week and even then I do shopping for mum n dad or take kids somewhere for school or commitments.

I am at a loss at the fact I feel I’m being made a fool of and laughed at by all in question and they think I’m an idiot.
my frustration has now gone beyond frustrating I am now on melt down and I just don’t know how I am going to get through this.
I right my husband a text to explain how I feel and now he is not talking to me and it’s about him.
so I can’t win.
I just don’t understand why I allow this to happen.

but Thanku so much I’m blessed that someone so kind can reach out and understand my pain. And not judge me.
Thanku this means the world ur amazing.
😊🦄