https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/never-done-anything-like-this-before/m-p/489128#M26575 <P>Hi all,</P> <P>So obviously I'm new here. What brought me here was the realisation that my mum (and quite probably my dad too) is a narcissist. I mean full blown, psychological disorder stuff.. I've always just thought it was "her" and what she was like but after a massive argument with her (the only proper one we've ever really had) and doing some research I now know why she is the way she is but it's been hard to accept. Learning about it has made me look back at my whole life and it explains a lot but has made me extremely emotional and sad and questioning my whole childhood. I guess I just needed a place to vent and maybe get some support through all this.</P> <P>My husband is extremely supportive but sometimes it's easier to get a non-bias viewpoint. Plus I want home time to be positive as we have a nearly 1 year old so I don't want to be sitting down talking about sad things all the time rather than enjoy every moment with them both.</P> <P>Anyway, I could go on forever but that's me. Thanks for this outlet! I'm hoping it helps.</P> Wed, 18 Mar 2020 00:56:36 GMT ElectricBlue 2020-03-18T00:56:36Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/never-done-anything-like-this-before/m-p/489128#M26575 <P>Hi all,</P> <P>So obviously I'm new here. What brought me here was the realisation that my mum (and quite probably my dad too) is a narcissist. I mean full blown, psychological disorder stuff.. I've always just thought it was "her" and what she was like but after a massive argument with her (the only proper one we've ever really had) and doing some research I now know why she is the way she is but it's been hard to accept. Learning about it has made me look back at my whole life and it explains a lot but has made me extremely emotional and sad and questioning my whole childhood. I guess I just needed a place to vent and maybe get some support through all this.</P> <P>My husband is extremely supportive but sometimes it's easier to get a non-bias viewpoint. Plus I want home time to be positive as we have a nearly 1 year old so I don't want to be sitting down talking about sad things all the time rather than enjoy every moment with them both.</P> <P>Anyway, I could go on forever but that's me. Thanks for this outlet! I'm hoping it helps.</P> Wed, 18 Mar 2020 00:56:36 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/never-done-anything-like-this-before/m-p/489128#M26575 ElectricBlue 2020-03-18T00:56:36Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/never-done-anything-like-this-before/m-p/489129#M26576 <P>Hi ElectricBlue,</P> <P>You've come to the right place! First of all, welcome to the forums. Realizing something in retrospect about our childhoods can be a really jarring feeling, when all of the sudden things we remember and were confused or felt one way about are seen in a different light.</P> <P>It's so wonderful that even in this time of turmoil, you're turning your thoughts to your own young family. It's such a selfless act and reflects on what kind of parent you yourself are going to be.</P> <P>Feel free to browse the threads, and to respond here or elsewhere as you work/think through this tough stuff! Might it be good to see a GP or counselor to talk through some of it? If not, there are certainly loads of support resources in-person and online for people who grew up under similar circumstances.</P> <P>Warmly,</P> <P>Gems</P> Wed, 18 Mar 2020 07:49:07 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/never-done-anything-like-this-before/m-p/489129#M26576 uncut_gems 2020-03-18T07:49:07Z