Confused about life

StellaMarie3 — Tue, 03 Mar 2020 01:44:06 GMT

Hi

I'm 24 and very confused about life, I have 3 beautiful children that I adore so much and wouldn't have it any other way, but is that all I am, is a mother, I've complete lost who I am as an individual, like I don't know who I am without having my kids around me 24/7. I've had 1 night out and that was last year, I had my first child at 19 so I've been a stay at home mum since then without having time for myself.

The father is around but doesn't like to help, even though he has no job and stays at home but he plays the game and locks himself in the room, so the kids cant get in, its like he doesnt want his kids around him, or he goes for a drive all the time and goes places and sees people, We argue all the time, we don't get on, he expect me to do everything with our kids while he does what he wants to do, is that a normal guy thing??

He is very mental abusive to me as well, always telling me that he will kill me or take our kids away from me.

Is it okay to be in a bad relationship for the sake of the kids???

Sorry if I'm complaining about little silly things. 😕

Confused about life

Deckt — Tue, 03 Mar 2020 02:27:33 GMT

Hey StellaMarie3,

It sounds like you need to get out of that relationship, and now. What he is doing is NOT a 'normal guy thing'. It is abuse, plain and simple. It doesn't sound like the relationship is benefiting you or your children at all - on the contrary, it sounds very toxic.

Have you spoken to any helpline? Maybe 1800 RESPECT is a good place to start.

Please stay safe, and make sure that your kids are safe.

Confused about life

StellaMarie3 — Tue, 03 Mar 2020 04:55:40 GMT

thank you.

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