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Donnabalnor — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 09:24:31 GMT

its hard on your own most of the time. going into detox in 8 days time not looking forward it but will go went to a group session today mostly men swearing.am I the only one who gets upset and I am expecting the detox will be the same. my problem is booze thanks to a ex partner and life

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Summer Rose — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 11:20:41 GMT

Hi Donnabalnor

I'm really sorry that you are struggling to overcome alcohol addiction. I grew up with an alcoholic father so truly understand what a powerful and devastating addiction it is.

You are very brave to go into detox and I understand that this must be daunting for you. However, you obviously have strength and a desire to change. You should be really proud of yourself. Try to take one day at a time.

I'm sorry the swearing at your group upset you. Do you think you could discuss this with the detox administrators? You might find that other participants were upset as well and that some conduct ground rules could help everybody.

I wish you every success in the coming weeks.

Kind thoughts to you

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Donnabalnor — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 11:38:19 GMT

Hi my dad had a drink problem but a very kind gentle dad and did not drink when we where around old school ways, going to miss my bulldogs when I am in rehab that's will be the hard part they are my support cannot even take a toy bulldog in with me but I understand the reasons

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Summer Rose — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 12:04:02 GMT

Hi Donnabalnor

I can understand how hard the separation from your dogs will be. My dog is currently sleeping on my lap, we are so close and I love her to pieces.

Maybe you could plan a special reunion? Something really fun that you would all enjoy. It will give you something to look forward to and another reason to succeed.

Who is going to look after the dogs for you?

Kind thoughts to you

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Donnabalnor — Wed, 13 Nov 2019 02:09:02 GMT

Hi my youngest daughter will stay at my place with her dog and cat a cheap stay for her but who cares told her just feed her dog on my dog food eg top of the range food and take what she wants from the fridge freezer and cupboards I can trust her also my credit card if she needs to take a dog to the vets its great having kids you can trust I can give my daughters my cards and know they will not rip me off

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Summer Rose — Wed, 13 Nov 2019 10:22:17 GMT

Hi Donnabalnor

What a blessing to have your daughter's support. You are lucky and so are the dogs! You got this.

Kind thoughts to you

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Donnabalnor — Wed, 27 Nov 2019 11:23:28 GMT

Hi I have completed the first step in the detox programme and it was very great time 7days with great support and kindness, But at home alone and I want a drink. wishing I had some one with me for support but I know its up to me. Playing Uno with people who have been transferred from prison and the local major hospital it was fun and I have not damaged my liver. So if you get the chance do the programme please do it also they have follow up programmes lasting 12 to 20 weeks I did not know until a few weeks ago

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Summer Rose — Thu, 28 Nov 2019 02:31:18 GMT

Hi Donnabalnor

Thank you so much for letting us know how it went! I am so proud of you and so happy for you. The first steps are often the hardest but you did it. Congratulations. I hope that you can now plan something special to reward yourself because you really deserve it.

I can imagine it's really tough at home alone. Delay, delay, delay. Distract yourself. Send us a post. Whatever it takes to get through.

Kind thoughts to you

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Donnabalnor — Thu, 28 Nov 2019 03:55:42 GMT

thanks for the support I have been told it might take a few visits to stay sober but will do my best

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Donnabalnor — Thu, 28 Nov 2019 09:40:13 GMT

Hi thanks for your reply I am cutting down on drinking just buying the small plastic pouches I a day containing 2 standard drinks and taking the right meds and have set my self extra jobs to do washing up every day and 10mins weeding the garden today walked the dogs and went Christmas shopping with my 3rd daughter as well and will make myself eat better

Thanks for replying

Regards

Donnabalnor

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Donnabalnor — Fri, 29 Nov 2019 05:21:31 GMT

hi I have set my self goals I walk the dogs every day so that does not count but I will wash the dishes and do 10mins gardening each day and wash my clothes each week I know its not much but it is a start also will get help in with the heavy work in the house and garden

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Summer Rose — Fri, 29 Nov 2019 07:07:54 GMT

Hi Donnabalnor

Wow! Your goals sound great. Everybody has to start somewhere and you should be proud for selecting your starting points. I also get help in with the heavy work in the house and garden--anything to save time!

I hope you enjoyed Christmas shopping with your daughter. I like to shop with my daughter, we usually do lunch and have more than a few laughs along the way. Although this time of year it can be stressful with all the crowds, so we try to go early in the morning and get out before it gets crazy.

Kind thoughts to you

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Donnabalnor — Sat, 30 Nov 2019 19:53:06 GMT

HI summer rose you are the only one to chat to me Friday was not good was looking forward to a meeting with my nurse but it was cancelled and felt very low and needed some one to chat to so bought a bottle of wine, now awake at 3.30am did the washing up and the garden and now going through the paper work I have missed in the last few months. treated myself to a bulldog bad boys calendar. I am chatting to you but do not hear any thing about your life you do not have to say any thing I understand as I am a very private person life has taught me never say any thing you would want in print or on the net. well I am going to bed now and read a book till I fall asleep I hope. thanks for chatting. Regards Donnabalnor

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Donnabalnor — Sun, 01 Dec 2019 10:15:35 GMT

Hi Sumner Rose I bought 12 top of the range Roses David Austin for my 70 birthday and now they are starting to flower getting belter each day walked the dog and the went to the farms market as I had not changed from my dog walking clothes I was sniffed by every dog there and as soon as I got home I put every thing in the fridge but the bananas and did more in the garden to day when I was on the first steps programme I did not want to drink but as soon as I came home I needed to drink will have to chat to the group this week that's all for now thanks tou for chatting to me regards donnabalnor

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quirkywords — Sun, 01 Dec 2019 10:44:58 GMT

Donnabalnor,

hi. I have just seen your posts. I am glad you can write here and express yourself.

Your roses sound amazing so I am glad they give you pleasure.

Are you often awake at 3.30am.?

Do have you find it hard to follow your goals.

Many more people read posts than answer them.

Quirky

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Summer Rose — Mon, 02 Dec 2019 09:50:49 GMT

Hi Donnabalnor

Sorry it's taken so long to reply, my life has been a bit frantic lately. Work, house, kids and now Christmas.

Spent yesterday decorating our house and tree. One of my favourite days every year-- first time I play the Christmas carols makes my heart sing.

Just a bit about me ... I'm in my 50s, married 30 years to a wonderful man, with two adult children and a dog I adore. My daughter has a mental health condition called OCD, which lead me to this site.

Sorry to hear you were up in the middle of the night. I hate that. Nothing to do and desperate to get back to sleep. Nothing worse than waking up tired.

Sounds like you are doing your best not to drink and I'm proud of you. I know it's tough and old habits are hard to break but just keep at it.

Have you been to group? How did it go?

Kind thoughts to you

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Donnabalnor — Tue, 03 Dec 2019 04:23:15 GMT

Hi Summer Rose ,

a good session with my phycologists was told to phone the help line If I wanted a drink, and will do. just try to add more little jobs to my daily list of jobs so far 10 mins in the garden wash up every day empty rubbish bins every day take tablets every morning put the shopping away as soon as I get home booked GP appointment for tomorrow As my eldest daughter birthday is the 16th of December we put our decorations on the 17th. I also have a daughter with mental problems but she live is London and every time we chat on the phone I get abuse from her and it hurts so I just send birthday cards and Christmas cards and money, never has she every said thank you will stop now regards lin

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Summer Rose — Tue, 03 Dec 2019 06:24:00 GMT

Hi Donnabalnor

Sounds like today was a good day. Great idea to call the help line if you want a drink. Anything to delay until the urge passes. That's what I used to do when I was quitting smoking. I also started giving myself rewards, as I figured I was saving money not buying the cigarettes so I could treat myself. Small treats daily (eg out for coffee) if I got through the day and then a weekly treat (eg would get my nails done) if I made it. The treats just gave me something to look forward to. And eventually it got easier and I didn't need the treats.

My son's birthday is this week and my husband's next week. I should probably wait with the decorations but can't help myself.

Sorry to hear about your relationship with your daughter in London. Was it always like that? Or do you think her mental illness has contributed to the break down?

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Donnabalnor — Thu, 05 Dec 2019 11:30:42 GMT

Hi Summer rose I did the course and it was good will chat about it later its so hot in Perth this week and more to come its to hot to do any thing but sit under a fan catch up soon Regards Donnabalnor

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Summer Rose — Fri, 06 Dec 2019 09:38:50 GMT

Hi Donnabalnor

Enjoy the breeze and be in the moment! So glad the course went well. You are doing great!

Kind thoughts to you