https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/new-member-never-done-this-before/m-p/457740#M24219 <P>Hi Rocketgirl,</P> <P>welcome to beyond blue.</P> <P>This space is next best thing if you feel you are unable to talk to someone about you problems. I also want you to know that the users here are non-judgemental and will support you. So if you have something you need to get out, this is a good place.</P> <P>Other users have also mentioned something along the lines of everything is OK, so why am I depressed? Of course there maybe some underlying medical cause. For me, it is haemochromatosis, for someone else close to me is a thryoid condition and for someone else Parkinsons. Not to say you have any, but if there were anything a visit to your GP could give you some answers one way or another. </P> <P>There is also the K10 test on the beyond blue web site you can look at?</P> <P>Assuming it is not medical, it sounds like you have to deal with this by yourself? That being the case...</P> <UL> <LI> you might want to look at threads on <STRONG>mindfulness </STRONG>and <STRONG>grounding </STRONG>in the forums that might help to manage or cope with the negative thoughts.</LI> <LI>Is there anything you know that acts as a trigger? You might have to reflect on times when you were anxious or ....</LI> <LI>there are also apps that you can install onto your phone to help you as well. If you are interested in more information on these, please let me know.</LI> </UL> <P>Most importantly, I want to you that I am listening to you. I hope you come back and chat some more. </P> <P>Tim</P> Wed, 08 May 2019 07:31:52 GMT smallwolf 2019-05-08T07:31:52Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/new-member-never-done-this-before/m-p/457739#M24218 <P>Hi all,</P> <P>I've never been apart of a forum before, but I hate talking out loud, so perhaps this way I can let out some of the things I need to say without actually saying them! </P> <P>Anyway, i'm a mum of one with a fiance. </P> <P>I don't know if I have depression, or anxiety, or anything else really. I don't know if my current lifestyle is all that's wrong with me, or if there is an underlying issue. I've battled depression most of my life, but a change in lifestyle, mindset and association seemed to fix it and i turned it all around. Once I found my fiance and we got pregnant I thought that I would never see the signs of sadness again.. but they are back. </P> <P>I feel disconnected from everyone. I don't go out. I don't answer my phone. I cry when my fiance goes out with his mates. I feel like i've got no control over anything. </P> <P>I hate this feeling. </P> Wed, 08 May 2019 03:45:27 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/new-member-never-done-this-before/m-p/457739#M24218 Rocketgirl 2019-05-08T03:45:27Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/new-member-never-done-this-before/m-p/457740#M24219 <P>Hi Rocketgirl,</P> <P>welcome to beyond blue.</P> <P>This space is next best thing if you feel you are unable to talk to someone about you problems. I also want you to know that the users here are non-judgemental and will support you. So if you have something you need to get out, this is a good place.</P> <P>Other users have also mentioned something along the lines of everything is OK, so why am I depressed? Of course there maybe some underlying medical cause. For me, it is haemochromatosis, for someone else close to me is a thryoid condition and for someone else Parkinsons. Not to say you have any, but if there were anything a visit to your GP could give you some answers one way or another. </P> <P>There is also the K10 test on the beyond blue web site you can look at?</P> <P>Assuming it is not medical, it sounds like you have to deal with this by yourself? That being the case...</P> <UL> <LI> you might want to look at threads on <STRONG>mindfulness </STRONG>and <STRONG>grounding </STRONG>in the forums that might help to manage or cope with the negative thoughts.</LI> <LI>Is there anything you know that acts as a trigger? You might have to reflect on times when you were anxious or ....</LI> <LI>there are also apps that you can install onto your phone to help you as well. If you are interested in more information on these, please let me know.</LI> </UL> <P>Most importantly, I want to you that I am listening to you. I hope you come back and chat some more. </P> <P>Tim</P> Wed, 08 May 2019 07:31:52 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/new-member-never-done-this-before/m-p/457740#M24219 smallwolf 2019-05-08T07:31:52Z