https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/totally-lost/m-p/453796#M23899 <P>My partner of 37 years has just been diagnosed with depression he isshift worker so for some time I have been putting a lot of things down to being tired. he went to doctor on his own choice 2 months ago he is on medication. He has spoke to me about his confusion and sadness I am 1000% behind him all the way. </P> <P>The other day he told me that his doesn't know If he is in love with any more which nearly ripped my heart out we have a excellent relationship never ever fought always do things together. And he told me no matter what happens he will always love me. I am just hoping this is apart of his mindset at the moment I am still doing everything the same as before he told me cause he is my whole world and cannot imagine my world without him in it everyday </P> <P>iam hoping this is part of the condition until he get his medication working </P> <P>any advise on what or not to do would be very much appreciated thanks </P> Sun, 30 Jun 2019 07:46:25 GMT Shelby_01 2019-06-30T07:46:25Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/totally-lost/m-p/453796#M23899 <P>My partner of 37 years has just been diagnosed with depression he isshift worker so for some time I have been putting a lot of things down to being tired. he went to doctor on his own choice 2 months ago he is on medication. He has spoke to me about his confusion and sadness I am 1000% behind him all the way. </P> <P>The other day he told me that his doesn't know If he is in love with any more which nearly ripped my heart out we have a excellent relationship never ever fought always do things together. And he told me no matter what happens he will always love me. I am just hoping this is apart of his mindset at the moment I am still doing everything the same as before he told me cause he is my whole world and cannot imagine my world without him in it everyday </P> <P>iam hoping this is part of the condition until he get his medication working </P> <P>any advise on what or not to do would be very much appreciated thanks </P> Sun, 30 Jun 2019 07:46:25 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/totally-lost/m-p/453796#M23899 Shelby_01 2019-06-30T07:46:25Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/totally-lost/m-p/453797#M23900 <P>Welcome Shelby to the forum. Thanks for making your your first post. </P> <P>This a kind and supportive place. I can understand that the past few months have been ver difficult for you both. It is good your partner has gone to the doctor and has spoken to you about his feelings.</P> <P>Sometimes when a person is depressed they may be very confused about their emotions and feel they are not worthy of love from others. He may feel he is not capable of loving anyone. </P> <P>Depression is a cruel illness and deceive you into thinking you have no value and that you are a burden to your loved one. </P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;">Everyone is different so I would not give advice but keep on being supportive , patient and understand your partner may be quite confused and troubled for some time.</SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;">Also you need to take care of yourself as it ican be exhausting living with someone with depression. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;">There have been other threads on this theme so if you type in depressed husband/partner into the search engine on the top right hand side of page you will find threads that may help you.</SPAN></P> <P>Feel free to post here as much as you want to.</P> <P>quirky</P> Mon, 01 Jul 2019 08:55:36 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/totally-lost/m-p/453797#M23900 quirkywords 2019-07-01T08:55:36Z