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Wyandotte

Wyandotte — Sat, 02 Nov 2019 22:42:10 GMT

Good morning, I'm new to depression and learning fast. I was attacked verbally by my manager at work, resigned, finding out the hard way about the domino effect. I know my mood is related to the traumatic event but I can't shake it. I understand now how easily a person can become vulnerable and fragile when they can't or don't bounce back from one event. It's all pervasive and leads to reduced social activity. I don't want to bring people down but I so need to talk. It's been 3 months now and I do wonder if it will self resolve when I manage to get another job. I know I felt valued previously, work gives structure and I was busy, my role was tied in very much with my image and identity. How easily it can be crushed. I don't know if I need help other than to process what's happened, keep in touch with people, exercise, avoid excess alcohol, set goals one at a time and I'm trying to avoid making big decisions right now. Does this sound familiar to anyone else? I've been down in the past but I think this is sticking around too long.

Wyandotte

SammyB — Sun, 03 Nov 2019 23:23:41 GMT

Hi Wyandotte, welcome to the forums. I’m sorry that you’ve experienced a significant amount of trauma from the way your manager had treated you at work. It sounds like you’ve been very hesitant to talk to others about this experience as it seems like you would be burdening others, is that right? Please know that you have every right to be able to talk through this experience, it is certainly one that has greatly impacted your wellbeing and I’m sure your family/friends would want to hear how they can support you. Is there someone in your life that you’ve been able to talk to, or is there someone you’re thinking of checking in with about your situation? In the meantime, I hope you’ve found writing here a safe place to release your thoughts and feelings – we are here for you.

It must be really challenging to go from having a job that seemed to offer you a lot of structure, routine, and sense of purpose, to now being in a quite vulnerable place with much uncertainty. How have you been managing over the past 3 months? You’ve mentioned many positive strategies that can support your wellbeing and sounds like setting one goal for yourself in the meantime can be helpful – whether big or small I found making goals for myself during difficult times provides some more structure and helps with refocusing any unhelpful thoughts. Maybe choosing one of the above strategies to focus on could be a good start? Look forward to hearing how you go,

Sammy

Wyandotte

sokunn — Mon, 04 Nov 2019 02:19:20 GMT

I hope you do well im having a difficult time as well

Wyandotte

Wyandotte — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 09:10:10 GMT

HI Sammy, I have been updating everyone who will listen unfortunately. I just can't keep it contained. I've got strategies but it's not making a big difference to the impact this is having on me. It winds up at the same place "What's the point" which is a bit lame and true

Wyandotte

Wyandotte — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 09:11:58 GMT

I'm sorry to hear you are having a hard time. What's happening for you? Life is full of surprises and unfortunately they are not all within our capacity to manage. It's good having extra support