https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/where-to-begin/m-p/441125#M23252 <P>Hi Black_Rose </P> <P>Welcome and from what you have mentioned above I am sorry for what you have been through. It sounds like you have been to hell and back</P> <P>You are an intelligent and articulate person black_rose. No matter how long you have been with your partner this would have been very painful to go through .......again...</P> <P>The forums are a safe and non judgemental place for you....I hope we can help even in a small way </P> <P>I hope you can find some peace....(<EM>there are many gentle people on the forums that can be here for you</EM>)</P> <P>my kind thoughts for you and the pain you are going through.....we are here for you</P> <P>Paul</P> <P> </P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Mon, 29 Apr 2019 18:14:33 GMT blondguy 2019-04-29T18:14:33Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/where-to-begin/m-p/441124#M23251 <P>Where to begin....</P> <P>A year ago I caught my partner cheating... I was devastated, I gave him another chance...</P> <P>A week ago I caught him sex messaging the same woman, he claimed it was only the second time...</P> <P>Last night I noticed a text he was extremely protective of, he claimed it was 'work related'...<BR /> <BR /> Turns out it it was another woman altogether... he has just started to 'sext' her...<BR /> <BR /> Claims nothing physical happened... no big deal....<BR /> <BR /> Attacked my libido, claimed if I gave it to him more, he wouldn't stray...<BR /> <BR /> Claimed that financially "I need him and cannot afford to live without him"<BR /> <BR /> He refuses to believe it's over, blames me for his infidelity.... Thinks I NEED him.<BR /> <BR /> It's over! I will find a way to live without him....</P> Mon, 29 Apr 2019 16:32:51 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/where-to-begin/m-p/441124#M23251 black_rose 2019-04-29T16:32:51Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/where-to-begin/m-p/441125#M23252 <P>Hi Black_Rose </P> <P>Welcome and from what you have mentioned above I am sorry for what you have been through. It sounds like you have been to hell and back</P> <P>You are an intelligent and articulate person black_rose. No matter how long you have been with your partner this would have been very painful to go through .......again...</P> <P>The forums are a safe and non judgemental place for you....I hope we can help even in a small way </P> <P>I hope you can find some peace....(<EM>there are many gentle people on the forums that can be here for you</EM>)</P> <P>my kind thoughts for you and the pain you are going through.....we are here for you</P> <P>Paul</P> <P> </P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Mon, 29 Apr 2019 18:14:33 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/where-to-begin/m-p/441125#M23252 blondguy 2019-04-29T18:14:33Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/where-to-begin/m-p/441126#M23253 <P>Hello Black_rose, and I join Paul in welcoming you to the forums.</P> <P>It wouldn't matter how much the situation changed, the trust in your partner could never be sustained.</P> <P>I think you have made the right decision but would like to know a little more about you if that's possible, in your own time.</P> <P>Best wishes.</P> <P>Geoff.</P> Mon, 29 Apr 2019 23:08:51 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/where-to-begin/m-p/441126#M23253 geoff 2019-04-29T23:08:51Z