https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/tired-and-bored-with-myself/m-p/436291#M22965 <P>Hi </P> <P>Just wondering if anyone has some tools to help me get past what I have been feeling for the past 12 months. </P> <P>I have an empty nest and I am 59 years of age, with few friends or family and I am tired of trying to make friends. I work alone, but am reasonably paid for what I do and instead of facing my loneliness, fears, unhappiness, I gamble and that takes my focus off the real issues. Because I can continue on the hamster wheel of life. I have lost my way and need help to get myself back on track, but as I said I am stuck and even though I know nothing will change unless I change it,I do nothing. Why I do not know?Just tired of trying, I have joined so many groups and been to meet ups and not found a connection. But I see no other alternatives because sitting home every night ain't going to cut it either!</P> <P>I live in Darwin and I like the sound of your 6 week course, can you do it online?</P> <P>First step putting it out there, thanks for your time - Todder</P> <P> </P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Wed, 23 Oct 2019 14:35:51 GMT Todder 2019-10-23T14:35:51Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/tired-and-bored-with-myself/m-p/436291#M22965 <P>Hi </P> <P>Just wondering if anyone has some tools to help me get past what I have been feeling for the past 12 months. </P> <P>I have an empty nest and I am 59 years of age, with few friends or family and I am tired of trying to make friends. I work alone, but am reasonably paid for what I do and instead of facing my loneliness, fears, unhappiness, I gamble and that takes my focus off the real issues. Because I can continue on the hamster wheel of life. I have lost my way and need help to get myself back on track, but as I said I am stuck and even though I know nothing will change unless I change it,I do nothing. Why I do not know?Just tired of trying, I have joined so many groups and been to meet ups and not found a connection. But I see no other alternatives because sitting home every night ain't going to cut it either!</P> <P>I live in Darwin and I like the sound of your 6 week course, can you do it online?</P> <P>First step putting it out there, thanks for your time - Todder</P> <P> </P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Wed, 23 Oct 2019 14:35:51 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/tired-and-bored-with-myself/m-p/436291#M22965 Todder 2019-10-23T14:35:51Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/tired-and-bored-with-myself/m-p/436292#M22966 <P>Hi Todder,</P> <P>Welcome to the community here. Sorry to read you are a little stuck in the same spot at the moment. I know what that is like. It can be difficult to break out of the same box we have lived in for a while.</P> <P>Sounds like you have tried to make friends, join in with groups and other activities. There have been times when I have needed to push myself into attending groups for a while before it starts to feel like it is "normal" and "okay" then I relax and enjoy myself.</P> <P>One time I tried to think of something right out of my usual and ended up joining the Country Fire Service and a Riding for the Disabled Group. Unfortunately my depression got the better of me after a while and I stopped doing both activities, but at least I had given them a go.</P> <P>Are there any volunteer roles you might consider doing, even if it is a couple of hours every fortnight? That can be a way to meet people.</P> <P>Could you please explain what the 6 week course is that you are considering?</P> <P>Wishing you all the best in finding motivation and determination. It seems to me that sometimes these things hibernate!</P> <P>Cheers to you from Dools</P> Mon, 28 Oct 2019 04:38:20 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/tired-and-bored-with-myself/m-p/436292#M22966 Doolhof 2019-10-28T04:38:20Z