https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431641#M22534 My boyfriend and I were together nearly a year. <BR />He had told me that he suffers from anxiety, but I don't think I really <BR />understood. I'd not really come across it on such a personal level before. <BR />He became quite mean, so I choose to end the relationship. <BR />I regretted it, and felt terrible. But I felt quite mentally battered and lost. <BR />After a 6 month break we meet up and and decided to give it another try. <BR /> <BR />Unfortunately he is suffering from anxiety at the moment. <BR />I've done some reading and tried my best to educate myself. <BR />Getting myself out of the mindset of being able to fix it and what <BR />is the best way to support him <BR /> <BR />But I guess I'm looking for some advice. <BR />We don't live together, he doesn't like to talk much when he is <BR />feeling anxious...but will respond to messages. <BR />Trying to understand what I should not say. <BR />And any that I should. <BR /> <BR /> <BR />And i apologise if I'm using incorrect words or language. <BR />But very much appreciate your time and help... <BR /> Thu, 18 Apr 2019 12:32:14 GMT SMER 2019-04-18T12:32:14Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431641#M22534 My boyfriend and I were together nearly a year. <BR />He had told me that he suffers from anxiety, but I don't think I really <BR />understood. I'd not really come across it on such a personal level before. <BR />He became quite mean, so I choose to end the relationship. <BR />I regretted it, and felt terrible. But I felt quite mentally battered and lost. <BR />After a 6 month break we meet up and and decided to give it another try. <BR /> <BR />Unfortunately he is suffering from anxiety at the moment. <BR />I've done some reading and tried my best to educate myself. <BR />Getting myself out of the mindset of being able to fix it and what <BR />is the best way to support him <BR /> <BR />But I guess I'm looking for some advice. <BR />We don't live together, he doesn't like to talk much when he is <BR />feeling anxious...but will respond to messages. <BR />Trying to understand what I should not say. <BR />And any that I should. <BR /> <BR /> <BR />And i apologise if I'm using incorrect words or language. <BR />But very much appreciate your time and help... <BR /> Thu, 18 Apr 2019 12:32:14 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431641#M22534 SMER 2019-04-18T12:32:14Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431642#M22535 <P>Hey its good that your reaching out for help!</P> <P>Let him know that your always there for him and you will support him no matter what and you won't judge. </P> <P>What your boyfriend is going through might be a bit hard to process but always be there for him, and if he doesn't want to talk about it support his decision and maybe talk about it later. </P> <P>I hope this will help... alittle.</P> Thu, 18 Apr 2019 12:38:35 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431642#M22535 risingangel 2019-04-18T12:38:35Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431643#M22536 <P>Hi SMER,</P> <P>Welcome to the forums and thanks for reaching out. It's great to hear that you're trying to help your boyfriend with anxiety. It's not easy!</P> <P>I want you to know that it's okay if you don't fully understand anxiety to be able to support your boyfriend. Lots of people support partners with a variety of mental illnesses and aren't always able to understand it - but that's okay. You're trying, and that's what's important.</P> <P>Is he getting some support for his anxiety? Maybe you could ask him for some help - after all, he knows his own anxiety better than any of us ever could.</P> <P>Feel free to ask any questions. You might also want to check out these threads on people supporting people - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/supporting-family-and-friends-with-a-mental-health-condition-(carers)</P> <P> </P> Thu, 18 Apr 2019 23:22:30 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431643#M22536 romantic_thi3f 2019-04-18T23:22:30Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431644#M22537 My biggest concern is saying something that will feel pressuring or trigger. <BR /> <BR />I need to exercise calm and patience, and your words helped a lot! Thank you! Fri, 19 Apr 2019 04:07:24 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431644#M22537 SMER 2019-04-19T04:07:24Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431645#M22538 Thank for responding! <BR />Appreciate it! <BR /> <BR />He has been quieter than usual the last few days, so I suspected he wasn't feeling great. <BR /> <BR />He's come a long way since our first split 18 months ago. <BR />He admitted he was feeling anxious and not great. <BR />It's a big step for him <BR /> <BR />He is working a GP, but has been battling it without family or loved one support. <BR />Hasn't shared his feelings. <BR />But has started with me. <BR />Hopefully if I can understand better the more he'll trust me to help him Fri, 19 Apr 2019 04:13:37 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/my-boyfriend-suffers-from-anxiety-i-need-some-advice-please/m-p/431645#M22538 SMER 2019-04-19T04:13:37Z