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New person . how to reply

Guest_8790 — Sat, 09 Feb 2019 20:22:34 GMT

MY name is rusty girl and not sure how to reply to comments from from my first thread. Thanks so much to Paul and Bill for your kind words. I guess I am overly sensitive and tend to take things the wrong way and react on a negative manner so when people react I get upset. thinking too much the wrong way I suppose. when I say my inner voice I mean I am always critical of myself and find it hard to change or get motivated to change my way of thinking. worst time is at night when I don't sleep. it's hard to change after a lifetime of negativity but any suggestions would be appreciated. sorry for any misspelling as my eyesight is a bit off as been diagnosed with dry eyes and seeing ophthalmologist for treatment.

kind regards

rustic girl

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quirkywords — Sat, 09 Feb 2019 20:41:44 GMT

Hi Rusty,

I have seen your other thread and seen the supportive comments that were written.

I think what you wrote here thanking the people for their kind words is a good start.

The people here are kind and supportive.

I can relate to having an inner critical voice, I have a thread called “your inner critic, can you tame it”, there are ideas there that may help you. it is something I struggle with at times .

Quirky

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blondguy — Sat, 09 Feb 2019 21:10:33 GMT

Hi Rusty Girl

just asking if people can reply to you on your original thread so new members have room to post 😀

I hope today is good to you!

Paul

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Guest_8790 — Wed, 13 Feb 2019 04:52:30 GMT

thank you for your advice. I am still struggling to how to reply as I use mobile app but finally working it out. wish my life was easy to sort out. at my stage in life I should be happy and settled but I am still drifting. I guess I am on my own for a reason being depressed but will get by. thanks again

rustic girl

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Skary Bill — Wed, 13 Feb 2019 05:07:31 GMT

Hey Rustic Girl,

Looks like you're getting the hang of the reply thing. I've never tried the phone app, so you're a step ahead of me there. 🙂

Take care,

Bill.

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Carrebelle — Sat, 16 Feb 2019 08:30:52 GMT

Hi
Rusty Girl, I'm new to the forum and a Beyond Blue Voice, but you mentioned sleep and that you find yourself struggling the most at night.

Having broken my back and still undergoing a very long recovery, with a number of strong medications and a spinal nerve stimulator and fusions, the worst time for me has always been at night. I've had to roll over or move like a rotisserie chicken in order to reduce pain. That quiet time at night, when everyone else is asleep and you feel the stress and anxiety taking over, is very hard to control. I have found that through meditation and developing strong mind control, or listening to relaxing music by headphones or getting up, getting a piece of paper or a journal and writing down how you're feeling, what you want, why its not happening, etc can be of so much benefit, as a cleared mind allows you to sleep. I grew up in a negative environment and those things, plus illness change you forever. But you can reverse the negative thinking. Your mind is a muscle - work it as you would your arms at the gym. Set yourself small goals to find something each day to be grateful for. It can be as simple as being thankful for a nice cup of coffee or that the sun is shining, but eventually looking at the world and trying to find something positive changes your mindset.

I don't know your full story, but I hope maybe this helped a little.

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Guest_8790 — Sat, 16 Feb 2019 16:46:11 GMT

hi K

Thanks for good advice. I do try to play relaxing music and sometimes it works. I used to do shift work many years ago so having to sleep during the day and stay awake at night and this may be issue but since I left have not slept much however having depression and anxiety sleep is not the best. I do take sleeping tablets but not everyday.

Thanks so much for your input

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Carrebelle — Sun, 17 Feb 2019 05:21:55 GMT

You are welcome. I'm finding that the journalling before bed, actually clears my mind before I attempt sleep and really helps.

Plus something my specialist called sleep hygiene: Stop all technology including tv, ipads, computers an hour before bed. Shower or do nightly cleansing etc, so that you feel good going to bed, and make sure there are no distractions, except perhaps low music, reading for a short period and then slow easy breathes, with a calming mantra.

It's also helped.

Wishing you some healing and slepp.