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Nervous to post..

Coastgal86 — Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:34:23 GMT

Hi all!

Ok so I've taken the first step (again)

first time on forums was 2 years ago. I posted once then chickened out! I feel so silly reading so many truly heartbreaking stories and I'm over here thinking I have no right to feel the way I do.

I have all theses thoughts and feelings that I need to get out but don't even know where to start or who to turn to.

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MarkJT — Tue, 11 Apr 2017 12:00:25 GMT

Hey Coastgirl, you are most certainly in the right place. You in a very caring and supportive environment here and you will not be judged.

Please do not fall into the trap of comparing your story to others. Your story is the most important to you and do not ever downplay it. If it is effecting you, then we need to get you on the right path as soon as we can.

I am a PTSD, depression and anxiety sufferer and although it is mostly under control, there are still some bad days.

More than happy to hear what is going on with you and see if i can point you in the right direction to recover. Please do not feel silly doing it - as said, you will not be judged.

Hope to hear back from you and again, a warm welcome to the forums.

Mark.

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blondguy — Tue, 11 Apr 2017 12:00:57 GMT

Hi Coastgal86

Good on you for posting again!

You have every right to feel the way you do 🙂

These forums are rock solid secure and non judgemental which you know anyway

I joined Beyond Blue in Jan 2016 and was past nervous after being made redundant....I didnt even post my own thread for 3 months!

Im glad someone else is as nervous as I was.....seriously

If you have depressive thoughts/feelings or anxious thoughts or just need a chat there are many gentle people that can be here for you

good on you for having the strength to reach out

my kindest

Paul

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startingnew — Tue, 11 Apr 2017 12:50:55 GMT

welcome back CoastGal

your welcome to talk about anything you like. we are all here supporting you

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BballJ — Tue, 11 Apr 2017 12:59:39 GMT

Hi Coastgal86,

As MarkJT, Paul (blondguy) & startingnew have all said... these forums are totally non judgemental and you can talk about anything you are going through for general advice or just to vent things out.

Your issues or concerns are no less important than anyone else's so please don't think you should put yours in the back, we are happy to support so feel free to post what you are going through and we will try to give advice where we can and general support.

My best for you,

Jay

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Coastgal86 — Tue, 11 Apr 2017 22:45:56 GMT

Thanks so much Mark, your post gave me a huge sigh of relief! Looking forward to taking the baby steps to talk more on forums I think it will help lots 🙂

I am a mum of 2 and wife ( my husband is very unsupportive he doesn't believe in Anxiety) so i'm finding it hard with not much support. I guess I'm just tired of the constant feelings of dread and feeling alone

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Coastgal86 — Tue, 11 Apr 2017 22:48:37 GMT

Thank you so much Paul, it's so nice to know there are kind people here to talk to! And glad I wasn't the only nervous one for sure! I'm so appreciative of everyone replying it has really put my mind at ease xo

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geoff — Wed, 12 Apr 2017 00:01:22 GMT

hello Coastgal, what a great delight to have you join us, and to post your first comment I'm sure had been typed out and then corrected and then again so many times and by the end of this you eventually decide not to post it, but then get upset and probably annoyed the next day that you weren't brave enough to do it.
This also happens to me, because if I type a reply to someone then get up and walk away and by the time I sit down and re-read my reply it's changed and I notice all the spelling mistakes, but I feel it has to be sent so that this person knows that someone cares about them.
Try not to be afraid because your first post has been sent, and the hardest part of connecting with others.
Welcome to the site. Geoff.

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MarkJT — Wed, 12 Apr 2017 01:20:07 GMT

Coastgal, awesome that you have come back - so pleased for you.

It must be terribly difficult to live with someone who doesn't believe you.

There are a couple of tricks that may sway your hubbys mind:

Would he be open to looking at the carers thread on the forums?
Would he go to the GP to discuss what anxiety is?
beyondblue have a number of really good anxiety videos that he could watch.

In the mean time, it is really important that you make sure you self care is good. Try to make sure that your diet is as good as it can be and with all that "spare" time you have with two kids, try to fit some exercise in.

There is also mindfulness that you can do. Have you heard of that? There is a really good app called, "Smiling Mind" which guides you through it. Really good for anxiety.

Very pleased that you are here with us all!

Mark.

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Coastgal86 — Wed, 12 Apr 2017 02:55:51 GMT

Thanks Mark I will check that App out! I also work full time as a literacy coach and teachers aide in a rather full on school so that adds to the self care lack of time unfortunately! I do try mindfulness activities but yet to find one that suits 🙂

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MarkJT — Wed, 12 Apr 2017 08:19:40 GMT

Coastgal, excellent - please persist with the mindfulness as it can take some time to get the grasp of it but it works. Once you have the idea and can practice is well, you can literally do it anywhere at anytime.

Ok with the lack of time due to work, do you walk around a lot at work? Simple body movement is really good so instead of sending an email to a colleague, get up and walk to see them. Simple little things like that can make a difference.

You can also get up 10 minutes early and do a set of push ups, sit ups, star jumps, burpees etc - this gets the body and metabolism working, healthy start to the day.

Mark.

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Guest_128 — Sun, 07 May 2017 07:48:23 GMT

Just saying hi,

I think we are all equal