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Where to begin... I overthink everything and it ruins everything

hiphopsolves — Tue, 25 Jul 2017 02:52:51 GMT

To whomever, whoever and whenever,

As said above i overthink everything all the time which leads to what i think is anxiety. This has been happening for as long as i can remember. I worry, stress and make mountains out of molehills. I still function pretty well as a human, i work, pay my bills and go to university. I always appear to be the funny guy which i am; i am very funny, i suppose its my why of dealing with what goes on in my head.

Anyway recently i've thought 'stuff this', i have so many regrets in my life from over thinking and be anxious and i don't want to have any more. Psychologists do not work on me, i'm not sure why but they don't, i always leave a session feeling like 'well that was a nice chat but what am i going to do now?' I have been given a prescription from my g.p, i hope it works i really would like a little more control back in my life.

I am 24, work weekends in a laboratory and study Health safety & environment during the week

Where to begin... I overthink everything and it ruins everything

MarkJT — Tue, 25 Jul 2017 03:20:19 GMT

hiphopsolves, your story is all to familiar with me. You have described what i used to think like to a tee!

So a couple of things, when you say that psychs do not work for you, how many have you seen? Just like any other industry there are good and not so good psychs. If you have only had a couple, I would encourage you to continue your search for a good psych. I know a vastly different subject but you continue searching for a good pizza shop if you are continually have ordinary pizza don't you? Same principles apply.

Did your GP refer you to the psychs that you have not liked? If not, get the GP to refer you to one.

Mindfulness, if you have not heard of it, do some research and start it. It helps you to live in the moment and not worry about the future nor the past. There is a great app called "Smiling Mind" that helps you learn this. It has helped me substantially over the years.

See how you go with the questions above and we will take it from there.

Mark

Where to begin... I overthink everything and it ruins everything

geoff — Tue, 25 Jul 2017 23:12:16 GMT

hello Hiphopsolves, depression and anxiety make us think about so many negative thoughts, they accumulate, they are built onto by other thoughts which we may turn around into making us believe there're actually happening and there is no limit as to how high they become, and sometimes we believe that who we are seeing can not put a cap on this growing illness that we are struggling with, so not every psych is able to understand what we are thinking about, how, why or where, so that's when it's so important to keep trying to find someone who can connect with you.
Having a 'nice chat' may seem to be like that nothing is happening, but perhaps if you look at it this way, a rapport needs to develop between you and the psych and if this can be done, then you and your psych may have an understanding where you feel as though you can trust each other, that needs to happen and it's so important.
Perhaps one of these psych that you felt more comfortable with, would you want to go back and see.
I'm sorry for your circumstances. Geoff.

Where to begin... I overthink everything and it ruins everything

Tilly1 — Wed, 26 Jul 2017 07:22:51 GMT

Poor guy, I totally understand where you are coming from.

I am 22 and the 'class clown', I think I hide how I feel very well. Its so exhausting falling back into this feeling.

I too feel like psychologists don't help much but you know what it is? (Might be the same for you?) It is one thing to see a psychologist but the biggest bridge for me is opening myself up to that person. So I'm the end if I don't feel pushed to talk about things I end up chatting aimlessly.

I hope your medication goes well, I have always wondered whether I should take it but worried he oo much about it I'm the end. Let us know how you go:)

Where to begin... I overthink everything and it ruins everything

hiphopsolves — Wed, 26 Jul 2017 07:49:22 GMT

Cheers for the responses.

my life is not the worst but it sure could be a hell of a lot better.

im on day 8 of these meds, I'm anxious about them working. Which I do find funny despite the fact I'm nervous.

i do know that I have come along way from what I used to be like which was really, really bad. I just hope the drumming in my head and the negative thoughts will stop.

Where to begin... I overthink everything and it ruins everything

BlueGrass — Fri, 28 Jul 2017 02:51:04 GMT

Hi hiphop

Have you tried writing down what you want to talk to the doc/psych about? Can help, as we all can forget what is important, and remember the moment we walk out.

Must admit, I have one counsellor at the moment, feel just like you. "well, nice chat, but...was there any point in that?"