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Kishore — Wed, 01 Feb 2017 04:30:48 GMT

Struggling to make sense of life as fighting at so many fronts and diagnosed with high anxiety and depression. Losing job and feeling suffocated in a very long marriage as I am being controlled like a puppet by partner. Not sure how long will it go on.

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Starwolf — Wed, 01 Feb 2017 07:18:58 GMT

Hi Kishore, welcome to the forums.

Well done for reaching out. It sounds like you are in a complex, distressing situation. Getting treatment for anxiety and depression would have to take priority over a job that would no doubt put too much pressure on you at the moment.

Are you on a mental health plan ? Are you seeing a counselor or therapist ? You will need all the support you can get to help you over this rough patch. So please take care of yourself and make sure you are getting it.

Being in a controlling relationship is not making it any easier. I hope that -with help and support- you will gradually feel stronger within yourself to let go of a toxic relationship that must be contributing to you emotional pain. Is the relationship emotionally / physically abusive ?

Sorry about the questions. Only answer them if you feel comfortable with it. The more we know about your situation, the more efficiently we can help point you in the right direction.

Relationships Australia would be a helpful site to check. And perhaps googling narcissistic relationships would also help you figure out what it is you are up against re your controlling husband.

I hope you will continue to post. Navigating sections relevant to your situation (Depression, Anxiety, Relationships) will reassure you that caring support and understanding are available.

Here for you.

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geoff — Wed, 01 Feb 2017 23:00:53 GMT

hello Kishore, when you are struggling with anxiety and depression it is undoubtedly a terrible battle without question, but then to lose your job while you are being controlled by your partner completes the package where you feel as though there could be nothing worse that could possibly happen, unfortunately it can, because depression never stops trying to push you deeper and deeper into the black hole where you begin to close off to everybody and exclude yourself from the world.
This is a place where no one wants to go, because it just makes it harder to talk with you, so now we have to earn your trust and for you to feel comfortable communicating with us, and that's not particularly easy, why, because you are depressed.
We are deeply so sorry for you being in a situation like this, however there are several issues which are causing you problems, and they are 'losing your job, feeling as though you want to escape the marriage, either for a short time or permanently, but the main issue is this damn depression, which could be the cause to all of this.
Are you able to get back to us, because we want to help you in any way possible, and before I sign off I want to say that many people including myself have been exactly where you are now, so we maybe able to begin the process of your recovery, even if it's in a small way so please have some trust in us. Geoff.

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Gazzas — Sat, 04 Feb 2017 14:39:32 GMT

Hi Kishore,

On the positive side it sounds like you know what is happening with your controlling partner and you can do something about it. My heart goes out to you and I want very much for you to be free of this. Please keep reaching out and seeking help.